[greg93]

Hey,

English isn’t my first language so sorry if I leave some grammar mistakes. I promise I won’t try to make it a hard read lol

So the facts:
-Been together for 2 years and 9 months, the last 7 months have been really rough because her deeds at the beginning of our relationship caused stress and all sorts of things due to the fact how she didn’t appreciate me at the beginning. But on the other hand she was perfect at the end, it was the early phases that caused our break up on my side.
-Broke up 1 month and 30 days ago.
-She chased me for a month but I didn’t wanna get back with her because I knew I haven’t made any changes so we’d end up in the same situation and I always told her I need time to sort things out. But then she met a guy 3 weeks ago and now they’re dating, he really fills the gaps I left.
-Unexperienced me tried to beg, argue and then keep calm in 3 days (different approach each day during that 3 days last week). Although on the first day I asked her if she still loves me and she said no in a way I know she lied but maybe I’m micro-managing her communication rn.
-She thinks it’s the best thing we broke up.
-We had a little argument a week ago when I kept coming back to her friends while being drunk but I think she’s cool about that already, but…

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If she thinks it’s “the best thing” that you broke up, you have to think long and hard about what she needs to see from you in order to get back together. If you really want her back, consider what led to the break up, and what led to her seeing the break up as a good thing. If you can be the boyfriend she wants, then you have a chance to make some changes in your life and prove yourself to her. But if you can’t be what she wants — because it’s not who you want to be, then maybe she’s right.

I hope that helps. 🙂

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