[Wekeelaluvr415]

I went to dinner and get drinks with the kid last night. We have had previous sexual relations in the past two years. we were having a great conversation everything was very natural and I felt the connection and we were like making a ton of eye contact. We go to the other bar and I was definitely touching his legs and arms. Anyways, I like put Chapstick on my lips then asked if he wanted some and I put it on his lips then we left that bar and started walking towards my car. he like lifted me up and tried to throw me into water fountain in the cutest flirty way and then I tried to push him and then he like lifted me up and acted like he was going to drop me in.I told him I wanted to see the marina he works at the boats, granted we are both very drunk. So then we get to the marina, and he sneaks under the gate to go around and let me in the marina so we were walking around and he kept saying I don’t want the cameras to pick you up. So we walked around and I was definitely holding onto his Arm, he told me how to leave and I don’t know what happened because I was drunk but I tried to make a move and he pushed me back because of the cameras and I called him a pussy I am pretty sure. I texted him the next day with an apology and he never responded. It’s been 6 days and he hasn’t answered and I am going crazy. I really feel a deep connection with him because we are really the same person. He has the same interest and similarities as me and I get so many signs in my life that he is suppose to be my other half. I just don’t know what to do.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m sorry that you’re upset about his silence. The bottom line is that if a guy is interested in you, he’ll make contact, and if he isn’t, he won’t. I can’t really tell from your post what your history with him is beyond the fact that he’s someone you’ve had sex with, off and on, for two years now. That doesn’t mean he thinks of you as a girlfriend, and it sounds like he’s dating other people beside you because you mentioned your relationship has been “off and on”. You’re probably dating other guys, as well. If you want this to become a monogamous relationship, then I think you have to change your behavior and your outlook and act like the kind of woman he would want to be monogamous with — and if he’s not the kind of guy who’s not looking for monogamy, then understand that, and know that you have different goals.

I hope that helps. Feel free to write with any follow up questions.

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