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dont know whats going on?
Hi I met a guy at a restaurant on Saturday night he called me over as we had seen each other around many many times over the years. In fact after talking we had bumped into each other on and off for over 20 years. Anyway eventually he made a pass at me we went back to my place and he told me he was looking for love not just sex he stayed the night and we had sex and through the night after the sex I said to him if this is a one night stand to be honest about it as its easier for all and he said no i want to take it slow and get to know you and see how this progresses. I said fine then he made remarks about how his work meant that he worked strange house and that he had a lot of time to evaluate where he was in life and he asked me a lot of questions in fact in it felt like a job interview. He asked me about all my past relationships and my life and everything about me he didn’t leave for another day and we talked most of the time it wasn’t just sex anyway some of the time we just laid looking in each others eyes he kept telling me that we need to take it slow get to know each other see where it goes which seems strange since we had already had sex lol. Then he saoid lets get together for a dvd sometime i said great and then i looked at him in another way as to say i dont belvie you he then he put his hand on my shoulder and said i will honest, I then droppe dhim home and was going to pull off and he said come inside my dads in there and we went in and i chatted with his dad for a while then we walked out to the car and i said come round tomorrow for the dvd he said i work nights i said here we go and he said i will honest again we kissed then I left, Now its a day later and nothing. Am I being overly paranoid or does taking it slow mean i might have to wait a week or have I been played cos it just doesnt feel that way at all i mean neither of us are kids?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, you shouldn’t sleep with a guy on the first date because you become very invested before you even know him! Just because you’ve bumped into him around town for 20 years doesn’t mean you know him well enough to get this emotionally involved in him. If you’d only gone to dinner and a movie and he didn’t call, you wouldn’t be as concerned or confused, but because you slept with him and he didn’t call, you’re acting as if someone you had a relationship with is ignoring you, when the truth is, you had a hook up with a familiar stranger.

My advice is to read Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], so you have a much better idea of all the ins and outs of dating and when to sleep with a man and why. It’s going to help you a lot.

As for this guy, it’s hard to go backwards, but if he does ever call again and ask you out, don’t sleep with him until you know him better and have decided that he’s someone you want to invest your time in and he’s someone you can trust.

I hope that helps! Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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