[Anonymous]

Okay I’m very sorry but i am about to write the equivalent of a small novel here.
I’m in my early twenties and normally quite detached from people, they come and go
there is nothing i can do about that. but there are a few people in my life whose
friendship i cherish deeply and couldn’t picture life without them. My best guy friend is one of them. We have been friends since my freshman year in high school… just friends, we know each other better than anyone else does and well over the past year or so, with some help from my best girl friend, I have come to realize that i’m in love with him. i think he sends mixed signals, like once we were riding in my friends firebird and she had to have been going over a hundred miles an hour on curvy back roads when she let us know she was intoxicated, i was scared to death and curled up in the backseat and laid my head on his lap at that point he held my hand and rubbed it with his thumb, and stroked my hair. there have been other situations similar to this, but never anything that screamed “hey i like you as more than a friend”. and now here’s where it gets tricky my guy friend is bi sexual and currently in a relationship with a friend of ours they have been dating for a while and its not something i want to interfere with. im scared of how he will react if i tell him, i really don’t want to screw up our friendship, if he doesnt feel the same way. im just really not sure how i should come about telling him or if i even should tell him.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Don’t tell him you like him — and find someone else to like — who is more compatible and available. This guy is already in a relationship (unavailable) and he’s bi-sexual to boot (not compatible), which means there’s no way he’s going to be satisfied by just you (or any woman).

I highly recommend you read the book Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] so you understand how to get a guy, and how to know what kind of guy to get! 😉

If you keep a male best friend, it’s highly likely you’re going to fall for him, so you may want to limit your time with him until you get over your crush on someone who’s just not available to you. 😳

I hope that helps and that you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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