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[i]Im warning you now, this will be VERY long. 😛 But if you have the time, please read it. Id really like to hear someone else’s opinion on the whole thing, rather than just bits and pieces.[/i]

Anyway, my names Carly, and about a month ago, I got back in contact with this guy named Jake. We never really talked before, but we met in fall, talked sometimes because hes friends with my best friend, and we were friends on facebook, thats about it. Anyway, we met about a month ago, as I said, and we seemed to get really close that night. All night, he made it seem like he may be developing feelings for me. He was talking to me a lot, and seemed to be paying a lot more attention to me than the other people there, even though he was close with some people there he knew as well. At one point, he was getting ready to leave, and hugged my best friend, which is understandable because hes friends with her, but hugged me as well, which surprised me because that night was pretty much the first time i’ve said more than a sentence to him. He didn’t hug anyone else who was there, though. Later on, when me and my best friend were leaving, I said goodbye, but didn’t hug him and he jokingly made a big deal out of it, so I hugged him and left. He also gave me his number that night.

I didn’t talk to him for a few days, but the tuesday afterwards (the day we got close was a friday) we talked and talked almost every day after that on facebook. I started developing feelings for him, and from some of the things he was saying, I thought he was doing the same. The thursday before valentines day, we got into the conversation of crushes. I remembered him saying that he had a girlfriend the day we met, then he told me that they were more friends with benefits, and never actually were dating, though they never hooked up, just kissed. I didn’t really think much about it until later when I remembered that he did in fact say that he had a girlfriend. I asked my best friend about this, her name is CJ, and she said that she didn’t know anything about them just being friends with benefits, though she did know that the day after he told me this, he broke up with her.

So yesterday I was talking to him, and he said he was thinking. I didn’t really say much, but then he said he thought I was going to ask what he was thinking about. So taking the hint, I did, and he said he was curious if anyone liked him more than just a friend. I didn’t want to seem desperate and say that I did right away, but eventually he asked me in particular, and so I told him I did, and that I was hoping that it wouldn’t make things awkward between us. I was honestly expecting him to say that he had feelings for me as well, especially because he seemed to be trying to get me to tell him that I had feelings for him so badly. But all he said was he didn’t want me to worry because it wouldn’t make things awkward between us. After that, it eventually turned into a normal conversation, and didn’t go back to anything like that. I havent talked to him since then, although its only been a day.

I guess what im trying to ask is, do you think he has feelings for me? I really thought he did, but yesterday, after he didn’t say anything to me, I kinda re-thought it. I just dont want to get my hopes up if im going to get hurt in the end anyway. And I am always the one to get my hopes up and have nothing happen. 😛 So do you think he likes me? Any feedback on the whole thing would be awesome. Thanks in advance! Also, sorry this is so long. I figured I would include the whole story if anything.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I know you’re impatient and anxious and you want an answer NOW!! 😆 But the reality is that if he likes you, he’ll ask you out. That’s how you’ll know. And you can’t rush anything. You also have to pay attention to any absence of behavior on his part — if he likes you, but not as a girlfriend, he won’t ask you out.

It’s pretty simple, but because you want him to like you, you’re winding yourself up into a nervous wreck. Relax. Go on with your life. He knows how to reach you if he wants to.

I know that’s not exactly what you wanted to hear, but I do hope it helps!

Let me know how things go. And follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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