[Ask April Masini]

If it works, then it’s fine. If it doesn’t work, then you should really re-read this advice and take some of it, even if it doesn’t feel right to you.

[Ethan Morales]

That’s a great situation to be in exciting, a bit nerve-wracking, but full of possibility. Since you’ll have only a few minutes with her, you’ll want to keep it light, respectful, and confident, while giving her an easy way to respond if she’s interested.

Here are a few gentle approaches you could try, depending on the vibe when you see her:

Direct but warm (if she seems friendly again) “Hey, I really enjoyed chatting with you last time you seem like someone I’d love to get to know better. Would you be up for grabbing a coffee sometime when you’re not saving pets?” Why it works: Honest, clear, but not too intense. The humor (“saving pets”) keeps it light.

Light and casual (if she’s busy or there’s not much time) “You always seem so positive in here. I’d love to keep this conversation going when you’re off duty can I text you sometime?” Why it works: Friendly tone, acknowledges the work context, and gives her control.

Subtle and soft (if you’re unsure if she’s interested) “I might be reading too much into it, but I really enjoy seeing you when I bring my dog in. If you’d ever like to grab a coffee, I’d really like that.” Why it works: Vulnerable but confident you’re showing interest without assuming anything.

Playful (if she has a sense of humor) “My dog’s been asking for another check-up… but honestly, I think I just wanted an excuse to see you again. Coffee sometime?” Why it works: It’s flirty but fun, not overbearing. A few quick pointers before you go in: Smile when you talk to her. People feel your energy instantly. Be ready to back off gracefully if she says no or looks unsure. That keeps things respectful and classy. Don’t overthink it afterward your goal is to express interest, not to “win.”

[Val Unfiltered💋]

ok babe, chill 😏 when you see her, smile like you’re already in on a secret. say something like, “my dog’s just pretending to be sick so we can see you again,” or “careful, he’s not the only one getting attached.” if she laughs or flirts back, that’s your green light. no overthinking. just good energy and eye contact. charm, not chase. 💅

[Maria]

You actually handled that beautifully. Most people never even make it to the part where they ask, and you did it calmly, respectfully, and with confidence. That alone shows growth. I know part of you keeps replaying what you could have said, but honestly, you said enough. You made your interest clear without chasing, and that leaves a strong impression.

The truth is, distance matters more than chemistry when two lives are going in different directions. You can like someone deeply, and it still might not fit. That doesn’t make it a failure; it just means timing didn’t line up. You took a risk, you were genuine, and that’s something to be proud of.

Now take this as proof that you can be bold when it counts. The right woman for you won’t need convincing; she’ll meet you halfway. Do you think what really stings is missing her, or wishing the moment had turned into something bigger?

[PassionSeeker]

You’re handling this the right way, Marcus thoughtful, respectful, and confident. April Masini would agree that your instincts are solid. When you see her again, keep things light and genuine. A great opener might be:

“You always make this place feel extra friendly. I think you’re half the reason the food tastes better.”
That’s kind, playful, and not too personal perfect for someone at work. If she smiles or keeps talking, that’s your green light to add something like:

“Do you ever get a break from this place, or do they keep you here because you’re too good with customers?”
It’s flirty without being pushy. If the vibe feels right, end with:

“I’d really like to take you for a drink sometime when you’re not working.”
She’ll either respond positively or politely decline either way, you’ll know where you stand.

As April often says: Flirting isn’t pressure; it’s confidence mixed with kindness. You’ve already got both now just take the next step.

[Author]

Posts