[tennisgirl114]

Recently ive been having feelings for a close guy friend of mine. Ive realized that hes got all the qualities im looking for in a boyfriend, my family loves him, ive even had a few mutual friends joke with me that we would be a cute couple.

We spend alot of time together, mostly in small group settings. The problem is, i cant tell if he likes me as more than a friend also. He takes an interest in me and flirts with me. We joke around with eachother alot, he’ll say and do silly things to get my attention, and sometimes he will find a way to subtly touch me on the back or hug me. He’s gone out of his way to do nice things for me, and sometimes when we look at eachother i feel like hes attracted to me.

The only thing that makes me wonder is that hes naturally outgoing, funny, and really friendly…So he does give other girls attention too. Should i read into the signs that he likes me as more than a friend or not?

[tricia]

Falling in love with your best friend is really a complicated situation and has a lot of risks. It’s like “Friendship or Nothing”. You’re not sure if your friend feels the same way. When you tell your friend about your feelings, be ready on the possible lost of your friendship.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like he likes you, to me. He may need to know that you’re interested in him as more than a friend — but you have to do this very carefully. You don’t want to come on too strong so that you are the aggressor. But you do want to amp up the flirting so that he sees things are different and that you’re seeing him as more than a friend these days.

The first thing I’d do if I were you, is to check out (and buy) my book, Think & Date Like A Man. You can get it by clicking on the Relationship Advice Books link above. The book will show you how to start treating him as more than a friend without stepping over the line.

Give him an extra sexy smile or look and start considering him as someone you’d like to hang out with as more than just friends. He needs to feel the heat in order to generate his own! You can even tell him that you’ve never really noticed how sexy he is before.

If this feels right to you, then do it, and if he responds, ultimately, by asking you out on a date, and treating you as a girlfriend, not just a friend, then you’ll have your answer about his feelings. But if you do all this, and what’s in the book as well, and he still doesn’t respond, then I think you’ll know he’s only interested in friendship with you.

[Lavendermoon57]

I feel like he likes you. I’d try to find a way for you two to be alone, like inviting him over for a movie you both like. Without being overly aggressive, touch his arm or leg, put your head on his shoulder or hug him with your arms around his neck. See how he reacts to these seemingly innocent touches and play it by ear!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Happy New Year! Please let me know how things are going for you. 😉

[Natalie Noah]

There are strong signs that he might be interested in you as more than a friend. His flirting, subtle touches, and efforts to get your attention suggest he enjoys your company in a way that goes beyond casual friendship. The fact that he does this while still being outgoing and friendly with others doesn’t necessarily negate his interest; some people are naturally playful and warm, but the consistent attention and small gestures toward you specifically can indicate a deeper attraction.

The key here is to create moments where you can gauge his reaction to more intentional signals from you. By subtly increasing your flirtation like touching his arm, giving him a meaningful look, or finding ways to spend time alone you give him the chance to respond and show his own interest. His reaction in those moments will help clarify whether he sees you as just a friend or as someone he wants to pursue romantically. Approaching it carefully and gradually allows you to explore this without risking the friendship abruptly.

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