[neesh]

here is my story..its very complicated and i need your help

the thing i met this guy like two years back and at first we flirted and one thing led to another and we had sex. after that we been having continuos flings with no strings attached. it was made tat we could see other ppl if we want also. we use to have a lot of fun and share our stories and hang out as friends. we became closers and hes now like one of my bestfriend.

things started to change latley..we started getting involved in each others life. he tells me wat and where he goes and i do the same.and i dont mind telling him cox i like him alot. he always talks about his gals and i always talk about wat kinda guys i want.

but tonight he told me he slept wit this hot gal and it was great and i dont knw why but im sad and jealous. i didnt tell him and i dont want to tell him..i dont wanna loose my cool and loose my best buddy. i dont knw wat to do..i have no one to talk to at the moment cox hes only the one who listen to my problems and how can i tell hime tat i like him alot.

can u please tell me a way to get over this feeling..im up for anythin
can u please help me??? i need your help badly!!!!!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Women get attached to men they’re sleeping with. That’s what happened to you. You may have thought you could have a no strings attached relationship with this guy, but clearly, that’s not the case. 😳

You can’t have both things — a best friend you sleep with and aren’t monogamous with [i]and[/i] a man you share a romance and sex with. You can only have one. Since the former isn’t working for you (and I would have advised you long ago it wouldn’t, if you’d asked me), you have to quit being his best friend and sleeping with him. You’re only in for heartbreak as long as you stay on that path.

Men sleep with women because they can. You can’t expect him to treat you like someone special when you haven’t presented yourself as that kind of person. The truth is that men want to conquer women. They want to chase them, pursue them, overcome obstacles and finally win the grand prize! If you change your tune and become the woman that this guy wants to chase after, then you may have a shot at being his one and only. But if you continue sleeping with him while being buddies, it will never work for you.

If you want to know more about this dynamic, read Think & Date LIke A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. It will help you readjust your thinking — and your behavior — so you win with this guy.

Let me know if that helps and how things go. I hope you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 🙂

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