[Anonymous]

hi guys, i need some major help! 🙁

a few years ago, i was a sub at a local school and met a super cute teacher there. we flirted a bit and then he asked me if i wanted to maybe hang out… so i left him my number, and he called me and we went out. the thing is… he never mentioned he had a gf until the end. said he just wanted to be friends anyways. a few months later… we got chatting again, and we hung out. we made out and then he felt guilty and decided to tell his gf that he was with me. he told me he made a mistake… that he really loved her and wanted to marry her. said i was an awesome girl and he was sorry. now, i see him almost every day. since then (this happened last summer) he has gotten engaged, moved into a house with her, and actually got married a few months ago. he seemed to make the wedding sound like it was something that “needed” to be done; he with comfortable with her, didnt wanna have to date again, knew that he was getting old and needed to settle down, and knew that she REALLY loved him. so he was set. the problem now is, i see him and we look at each other with such passion. its so hard to even look in his eyes… we both feel so strongly for one another. its so hard to see him knowing he is married. i don’t think i can stand it any longer, i might need to quit if i continue seeing him! i truly love this man, regardless of what went on and how he “cheated”, i think he knew something was there with us and then decided that he needed to be with her b/c she loved him, blah blah. i just truly think that he and i are meant to be together. please help me… what should i do? i want to tell him how i feel… but is that inappropriate since he is married now?? i was so close to telling him to “DONT DO IT” when he was getting married. the way we look at each other is so strong, so passionate, its love. please help me. what should i do??? or should i not do????? thanks guys… 🙁

[Ask April Masini]

You shouldn’t tell him about your feelings of love — which, frankly, sound more like lust and loneliness combined — because he’s married to someone else. What you should do is turn your energy elsewhere and start dating other men. If you do, you won’t be lonely and look at someone who’s not going to be there for you one hundred percent, as a potential Mr. Right.

If you need to jump start your dating life, buy my book, Think & Date Like A Man, at this link: [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. It’s helped a lot of women find and get Mr. Right rather than fester in pain because the man they loved is unavailable. 😕

If you don’t have the willpower to focus on yourself and strengthen your own life so that you know and act like you deserve a man who is available and wants to give you his whole self, then by all means, look for another job so you won’t be tempted to make a big mistake while you’re working on your own life. But leave his alone. He belongs to another woman, and he chose to marry her even though he dated you when he was still single. He’s not yours — but there IS a man out there who is. Find him! 😀

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