[Anonymous]

Hi April, I need your advice on a problem I have.

About A week ago I told my friend whom I have been secretly in love with for years about my feelings towards her. I told her that I was in love with her and out of frustration I told her that she has been torturing me for the last four years. To make things worse I told her that I cant be just her friend anymore.

She was really shocked and I could tell that she was upset. And I havent talked to her since. Even though I dont want to lose her, its too difficult to just be her friend. What should I do?

[Ask April Masini]

Ask her out on a date! 🙂

If you go to dinner with her, you can test the dating waters and see if she’s interested in you. If she won’t go on the date, then you have your answer about your relationship.

[Anonymous]

I will ask her out, but in case she says no. Is there anything else I can do to get out of the friend zone. I would do almost anything to be with her. Should I try to make her feel jealous?

[Anonymous]

I know how u feel I was in the same boat but didnt have your courage to say anything and now he is going out with somebody and we r not even close anymore so i kept my feelingd hidden for nothing. It’s important to take risks and if ur desire for her overides ur need for friendship with her then get ur confidence together and go for it it’ll be the catalyst for something either a begginning or an end..I hope a Beginning 😉 [quote=”Morethanafriend”]I will ask her out, but in case she says no. Is there anything else I can do to get out of the friend zone. I would do almost anything to be with her. Should I try to make her feel jealous?[/quote]

[Anonymous]

[quote=”boogie”]I know how u feel I was in the same boat but didnt have your courage to say anything and now he is going out with somebody and we r not even close anymore so i kept my feelingd hidden for nothing. It’s important to take risks and if ur desire for her overides ur need for friendship with her then get ur confidence together and go for it it’ll be the catalyst for something either a begginning or an end..I hope a Beginning 😉 [quote=”Morethanafriend”]I will ask her out, but in case she says no. Is there anything else I can do to get out of
the friend zone. I would do almost anything to be with her. Should I try to make her feel jealous?[/quote][/quote]

I called her today, and I apologised for some of things I said. I asked her if she wanted to go on a date waith me. She said no. She said that sh still wants to be my friend but she cant be anymore than that.

Its over. As much as I want to be with her, I cant stay and watch her date other guys. I think I am just going to stop seeing her. Its gonna be tough though.

[Ask April Masini]

Look — you did the right thing. You had the courage, as boogle said, to ask your friend out on a date, so you should feel great about that even though she said no. Having regrets for never having tried would be much, much, much worse than if you tried and got shot down.

So much of life is getting up to the plate and giving that proverbial ball your best swing. Now, while you may be disappointed, you can have peace of mind (which I hear in your post) that you tried and there is nothing to do any more.

You are a great guy and you should get out there and find someone who wants to be your girlfriend. Believe it or not, you’re going to be a better boyfriend when you become a boyfriend, for having gone through this.

Good luck — and let me know when you meet someone great!

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