[gershyhershy]

hello how are you??

i am wrting to hopping that you can help me i have very bad luck with relationships..after a bad break up a year ago i have finaly found someone i am intersted in again..he is 27 he says he he done with partys and all that and he wants to just settle down in a serious relationship wich i liked because i thought finaly someone i can trsut and have a good steady relationship…however we have gone on two dates and today he took me out for coffee than aftert we went to park by the lake and he started making out with me but than he was gettin a little too rouch than he put his fingers down there..i said stop and he told him this is too fast but he said this kind of thing only makes a relationship more exiting and fun. on the way home he made a comment like is not my fault u get me so exited…i aske him to give me at least another 2 weeks for me to get a lil more comftable because i dont want to get hurt and his coment was ok see u in 2 weeks and laughed ..i dont know if he is just playin a game or if he really wants a relationship ..i really need help i really like this guy please help me …

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Behavior is a better indicator than words, and while your new guy [i]says[/i] he wants a serious relationship, he’s not acting like he’s ready for one. When you asked him to slow down, he quoted his experience in relationships — not his feelings about you. He’s not thinking about you and this relationship — just his own calendar for where he should be at what stage of any relationship. If he was really into you and this relationship, he would have apologized for rushing you and been happy to slow down because the relationship with you and getting to know you and your feelings about things would have been more important.

His comment about “then call me in two weeks” is crass, insensitive and disrespectful. It means he wants to see you when you want to have sex, but not before then.

Pay attention to this flashing red light and break your bad luck streak with men. Next!

And for more help while you’re getting back into the RIGHT WAY to date, buy Think & Date Like A Man, that you can download automatically here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. You can also buy it on the websites for Amazon or Barnes & Noble. Read it — it will help you a lot!

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[Anonymous]

Hello sweet heart
Thank you so much for ur reply back and all that u do for ur writers…I comfranted him about it last night after all the thinkin that I was doing all day it was killing me. He said that he was sorry if he had offended me and he said he just got cought in the moment and after he saw that I wasn’t comftable he stoped and he dosent want me to do nuttin I’m not comftable with… So I will see I don’t know I’m not ready to quite let him go yet….although I did buy ur book yesterday I can’t wait to get it but I forgot to write my apt nr on the adress so I hope I still get it 🙁….I greatly appriciate your help you are the best happy holydays muahh

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You can track the book’s delivery through the vendor and ask them to update the delivery address with your apartment number if you’d like! I think that you should really read this book while you’re dating this guy — it’s going to help you navigate any land mines along the way!

Let me know what you think of the book and how it goes! And thank you for your kind words. 🙂

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