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    Flowerpower
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    Hello, I need help figuring out which one of us is right. To make a very long story much shorter, I will try to explain it simply: Both my boyfriend and I have Facebook Accounts. Anyway, we were both in an online Facebook group and one of the members started bullying me, non-stop. I ended up leaving the group, and so did he. He agreed that this person was a bully to me. Months later, in wanting to be peaceable, I tried to befriend this “bully” and she refused my invitation. I just let it be. However, I was shocked to see that my boyfriend was friends with her on Facebook even though she wouldn’t be my friend! I told him that by him being friends with someone who not only bullied me, but then refused my Friendship Request, as well, was showing me disrespect. He disagrees and says that he should be able to befriend whom he wishes. Due to the entire circumstances surrounding this whole ordeal, I think his Facebook Friendship with her is very rude ţoward me, especially since everybody knows he, and I, are a pair (she knows, too). What do you think??

    #34054

    I think you should take a couple of steps back to gain some perspective. You’re in a relationship with a guy, and if all else is going well, why make a mountain out of what can be a molehill? In other words, this is one you can let go. You’re trying to make one of you wrong — which means one of you will lose. The reality is that if you hadn’t tried to befriend your bully, his trying to befriend her would be a betrayal. But since you did try to befriend the bully, and he followed your lead, he didn’t really do anything wrong. The problem is that the bully rejected you, and now you want him to reject her as a punitive measure. My advice, let it go. You can’t win this one in the big picture on the track you’re on. Take the high road and don’t spend a lot of time thinking about this.

    I hope that helps. 😉

    #34079
    Flowerpower
    Member #373,738

    I really appreciate your help with this, and your answer has been a blessing to me. Thank you very much!!

    #34083

    You’re very welcome. 🙂

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