I’ve been “talking” to this girl now for 5 months and i am secretly in love with her. I am crazy about her! The problem is this…I just turned 25 and she is still 18. However, she got out of a 2 year engagement 10 months ago. So she is very very fragile! So we have been hanging out at least twice a week for the past 5 months and things go great, then they back off, they go great, then back off, same pattern. We are planning to go on a trip together for a week in about 3 weeks, so that’s a pretty big deal. And about a month ago things looked like we were getting ready to date, we would hang out every day, and things were awesome! Then some drama started and we didn’t talk for a week, things got bad. Then she told me she wanted things to get back to normal, the only problem is that now that we are hanging out again, she barely will let me touch her, hug her, anything. Obviously I want more than just friends with her but when I hug her it’s awkward now and when I put my hand on her or something, she just acts different. So what can I do or say to help things out here? I don’t want to screw things up before our trip, but I also would love to be headed in the right direction before out trip also…I want to move things forward but I have no idea what is going on with her. She is always scared to move into anything too seriously but it’s been 5 months!!! and it’s killing me to not be able to kiss or hug her when we hang out! But yet when I don’t text her back for 30 minutes, she will call me asking me why I haven’t texted her back! haha it’s so strange but I’m crazy about this girl and I want a relationship with her without being pushy and without being in the friend zone right now! I was so sweet to her whenever we were doing good and she loved that, but now I’m trying to back off and not be very sweet at all hoping it will drive her crazy, but it looks like it’s biting me in the butt instead. So should I flirt and be sweet to her a lot more or keep doing with I’m doing and try to be distant with the texting? Any plan, advice, info would be great. I just need to figure this out! And we have talked about being in a relationship a million times but she never wants to talk about the future or anything..so it’s hard to bring it up at all!
