You may want your ex back, but the way you’re going about it isn’t going to get her. Decide where your boundaries are, and then stick to them. Right now, you’re blaming her for your behavior, and it’s time to take control of your own life, so you can find some success — whether it’s in a relationship with her, or someone else.
You’re right that you can’t be friends with her. That’s not what you are, and not what you can be. She’s not sending you mixed signals — she’s being very clear: She’s keeping you around as long as you’ll stay, as a back up in case something better doesn’t come along. You’re the one who’s giving yourself mixed signals by doing things for her and reporting in to her, without any of the relationship you want, in exchange. Not a good deal!
The two of you have broken up, and she’s not ready to get back together. My advice is that you start to play the field and look elsewhere. And stop reporting in and doing boyfriend and friend things for and with her — unless she wants to start dating again. After two years together, you’ve given it a good shot, and if she doesn’t want to to date you, then you should be grateful for the time together and what you learned, but eager to find true love with someone more compatible in terms of relationships. 😉
Hope that helps.
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