[Cheater]

I have been married 15 years. I was looking at my husbands phone and there was a text to another woman. It read like this. My husband – are you still as beautiful as ever? The woman- I hope so :). My husband- its been way too long. I would die to see you. Just talking to you puts a smile on my face. Woman- yes:).
When I confronted my husband he said he texted her that because we had a fight that day and he was pissed at me and wanted attention from another woman. This woman is married by the way as well. he said he was sitting at Starbucks back in January and she sat down flirted with him and they exchanged phone numbers but he swears they never ever one or saw each other after except for that last text. I do not believe him and I really do not know what to do. Please give me your opinion and why.

[AskApril Masini]

Men cheat because they don’t get their needs met in their marriage. It’s not because she’s more beautiful than you are or more charming than you are. It’s because he wanted to feel valued and she made him feel that way. And…. the two of you were fighting. That’s the reason he did what he did. I don’t believe, from what you wrote, that it went beyond the flirtatious texting — but I’m not there. However, the key is not the relationship he has with her — it’s the one he has with you. Focus on the real problem, what’s going on between the two of you, not the distraction (his flirting with someone else).

I hope that helps.

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