[sunny Khalid]

hey!
firstly i wanna introduce myself. m 23 years old Muslim Girl currently student doing my postgraduate. i saw him at orientation day (first day of university) i don’t know why i felt curious about him but after some days i just ignored him. after a month i noticed where ever i went lucky or unlucky i found him there. i don’t know but i always gave him a very rude expressions and he too i noticed from far away he always noticed me but whenever he passed near to me he ignored me.i discussed this with my friends and she said he has a crush on you that’s y he noticing you like this i just laughed at that time. well after 3 months of university i searched him on Facebook and contact him and i asked him why he is behaving like this why he gave me so rude expression and why he was staring at me he said no i never want to hurt you m saying sorry for miss behave.we said sorry to each other. i discussed some issue like m not very social i felt said i don’t have much friends etc, then he said try to make some friends and at that time i said okay then i wanna start this from you and he said OK lets be a friends. then i asked for a meeting. we both are hostelites. then with the passage of time we became a very close friends. sometime he wants to discuss topics like sex etc i always tried to answer his questions in a very decent way sometime i got offensive why he talked like this to me coz we are friends. i hide my feelings from him coz he cleared that he did not want to marry because his family does allow him to go for love marriage etc. he always said to me you are very stubborn and aggressive girl. but he always showed care for me. before 4 days we were setting in a cafe and he kissed me for this i was feeling guilty and i told him that i have feelings for him and want him to b my husband (i know its wrong) butttttttt. m feeling tensed i am confused i don’t wanna …. 🙁 even one day he said to me if anyone of us develop feelings we should share it … but he always said i am clear i don’t have feelings. but i have feelings m so confused what to do or what not to do. .. but when he kissed me i told him now u know what our religion saying and what you are doing its hard for me to leave you i don’t wanna leave you i am giving you a time of 3 years i will contact you after 3 years for your reply i will wait for you.

last night i was studying your book Think & Date Like A Man……. i thought he is confused he don’t wanna confront his feelings because of some family restrictions. even i belong to a family where i don’t have permission to marry not even from out of my cast. and u know what now m following your tips which you gave in that book to some extent m feeling relax today he was there in cafe i just passed a naughty smile at that time it was hard for me to hide it and he was like 🙁 i enjoyed his condition but i don’t know he was missing me or not i guess he was…. he was alone … what you think he has feelings or any chance … u know what April i felt guilty coz m a Muslim Islam does not give me a permission to have sex not even a kiss with a man before marriage even i myself did not want this before marriage … is he cosidering me as timepass? he said we are good friends i said n we are not coz friends never kiss like this… 🙁 tell me what to do. m sorry m not english speaking ❗ waiting waiting

[AskApril Masini]

You’re asking a lot of questions about [i]him[/i] — but you’re ignoring the fact that he’s made himself pretty clear to you. 😕 It’s just that you don’t like his clarity, or the responses he’s giving you. If a guy tells you he’s not interested in marriage, and that he just wants to be friends, you should take notice. 😉 If you do want marriage, then you should find someone else who does, too — otherwise you’re not just wasting your time, you’re possibly ignoring other interest from available men because you’re focused on this other guy.

If you do want to get a man to be yours, then you have to follow the rules in the book — instead of breaking them. 😳 Don’t chase men — because when you do, you wind up in this situation, wondering if they like you or not. 😉

I hope that helps!

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[sunny Khalid]

🙁 yes you are right….. but is it impossible to change his mind??? like no chnace??

i told him i like u. now i don’t wanna go with fake friendship.. so m breaking this relation up. and i did… you say what should i do now? now m totally relying on your book. m too much sad i just hate my heart 🙁((( i want him to b mine.now i want him to miss me?? it really hurts why he is so cold whats the reason??

[AskApril Masini]

Well, if you’re relying on the book, then you have to actually [i]do what the book says[/i]! 😉 For instance, the book specifically says don’t chase after men — but when you searched him out on Facebook and contacted him first, you did just that! 😮 You also asked him to meet — instead of waiting to see if he would ask you to meet. 😕 Then he told you he doesn’t want to marry, but you continued to see him — when you clearly want to marry. Then you told him you want him to be your husband…. 😳 which the book, clearly says you shouldn’t do. So….. it’s fine to want to follow the book, but you can’t say you want to, and then not do it. 😉

At this point, my advice is to stop contacting him, altogether, and instead, focus on making yourself interesting, enticing, and flirtatious — so that when he does contact you again, if he does contact you again, you can try to make him want you — over time — instead of making more mistakes that will end up sabotaging what you do want.

I hope that helps!

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[sunny Khalid]

😀 haahhaah literally your reply make me laugh and thanks for it coz i started my new year with more n more laugh & happiness.. i realized it even when i was chasing him that i am 100% m doing wrong but at that time i just want miracle to happen.. but now i just throw all my foolishness and stupidity which i did in 2013… now even i find myself different with 2014.. i would love to follow what you said in your book. will contact you after some time or may b whenever i need your kind tips because now m going to do a experiment with your book.

one more thing really you just rocked the… the ummmm 🙄 the world 😀 great work you are doing ALlah (GOd) will reward you for this your tips bring happiness on faces. thank you so much 😉 😀 ❗

[AskApril Masini]

What a great post to start the new year! 😀 I hope that you have a wonderful year of relationships and love. 😀

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[sunny Khalid]

hi APril

how are you? hope you are fine. give me a piece of advise. 😀 what would you like to advice a girl? i wanna know and follow 🙂

waiting..

regards

[AskApril Masini]

I’ve written a compilation of my advice for women who want to find, get and keep Mr. Right, in a book called [b]Think & Date Like A Man.[/b] You can buy it here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. I think you’ll get a lot of my advice if you read it. 🙂

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[sunny Khalid]

🙂 thank you. i read it every night. i guess i read it more than 10 ummm 12 times. and what ever i am doing i regularly visit this forum before going to sleep. actually i have my final exams so m feeling little stressed so i find it interesting to read others problem and than your reply to their question. yup i will buy it. i was asking about general advice not for my Mr. Right. coz now m following your rules actually those are the rules every Girl should Follow them not to make him her and keeps him but for their self respect for their true loyal feelings… 🙂 well Thank You

GOod night 🙂
😀

[AskApril Masini]

You’re very welcome. 😀

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