It’s understandable that you’re upset. However, this may not necessarily be a deal breaker. In relationships that work in the long term there are understandings that not everyone is good at the same things. For instance, you may be an excellent caretaker and homemaker, but not so great at bringing home the bacon. He may be outstanding at bringing home the bacon, but not so good at heating up canned soup and rubbing your feet when you’re sick. It’s a losing proposition to expect him to do exactly what you do and vice verse. If you feel he’s a asset to your life and you can spell out why, then my suggestion is that you overlook his shortcomings as a nurse, and try to make some friends in your spare time (it sounds like you just spend your time with your son when your boyfriend is not around). Friends can be great resources and I bet some of them will be happy to check in on you when you’re sick so you don’t feel abandoned. I’m guessing your boyfriend won’t feel so put upon (no man wants to think he’s bad at something) if he knows that you (or he) can call your friends for a hand when you’re sick.
Let me know if this works for you. It would be a shame to ruin a relationship because he’s not as good as you are at care taking.
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