[Strangeland]

Hi April!

I’m a 23-year-old female student at a university in Michigan. I got a new prof this year for one of my courses, a guy in his mid-30s I became interested in over the last couple months.
When I would sit in his lecture in the front row he would keep looking at me for a longer period of time and I would return his glances but rather expressionless. You know, not like smiling or anything. I would just look attentively.
A week ago I paid him a visit at his office during his office hours to have a little chat with him about the lectures in general. I came in and he greeted me with an overwhelmingly radiant smile (couldn’t find a cheesier word, sorry). That bastard made me forget my own name. Must be some kind of super power. So I sat down and we talked about 40 minutes and a little past his office hour. He did most of the talking making sure to explain his answers thoroughly (Jesus, did this guy talk). What I observed about him while listening is that his pupils were damn big. Like truck tires (I hope he ain’t using or something). When he was done talking I wanted to thank him and leave but he asked me how my project was going (everyone in this course got the same project for which we have a couple months to work on) and if I needed any help. I answered that I haven’t got started yet so he offered me to come again after Christmas Break so he could help me. I was a little surprised about this offer since it’s not his job to help us with the project but the teaching assistants’. You know, the boring work is for the inferiors. Again, I wanted to leave and he asked me if I have any other questions so we talked again about some other crap. This time, I even got on my feet and put my jacket on but he started talking again. Maybe he craved some company, I don’t know. I know though, that there are a lot of female students who would love to keep him company. I smiled and offered him my hand to shake and thanked him for his time. He smiled back and invited me once more to come back after Christmas break and I finally left.
Now brace yourself for some teenage stuff: the reason I wanted to leave so badly was that I felt highly nervous in his presence. The good kind of nervous. When I walked out of his office I actually had to sit on the nearest bench because my legs got wobbly. I don’t like being like that cause it makes it hard to think clearly and that’s how bad decisions are born.
I would like to drop by again. However, I dislike asking for help and prefer to take care of my school stuff by myself. I could have a little conversation with my pride and kindly ask it to stay out of this at least once.
As you have probably figured out by now I do like that guy and would like to get to know him better preferably outside the classroom. I don’t see him primarily as a professor or somebody superior to me as I don’t perceive anybody that way. I mean, we’re all just humans, right? At the end of the day we don’t differ that much. So yeah, I primarily perceive him as a guy who seems interesting to me.
[b]Please also note, that our university policy DOES NOT forbid student-professor relationships.[/b]

So, what do you think? Does his behavior in any way indicate interest? Do you have experienced something similar or have any other kind of advice for me?

[b]PS: The guy ain’t married, already checked.[/b]

Thank you,

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He’s interested in you. 😉

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[quote=”April Masini”]He’s interested in you. 😉 [/quote]

Thank your for your opinion April. May I ask why you think that? Most people give me the “you’re imagining things”-speech.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re making me do your homework for you! 😆

[quote]When I would sit in his lecture in the front row he would keep looking at me for a longer period of time and I would return his glances but rather expressionless. You know, not like smiling or anything. I would just look… [/quote]

[quote]…he greeted me with an overwhelmingly radiant smile…[/quote]

[quote]…What I observed about him while listening is that his pupils were damn big…[/quote]

[quote]…he offered me to come again after Christmas Break so he could help me. I was a little surprised about this offer since it’s not his job to help us with the project but the teaching assistants’…[/quote]

[quote]…He smiled back and invited me once more to come back after Christmas break…[/quote]

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