[tkastnd06]

I have just this weekend found out my boyfriend who lives across the US has a new girlfriend. The last time I spoke to him was a week and a half ago, which is not uncommon as he works on a cruise ship and is not in port everyday to call. But we didn’t have any problems and both of us were talking about our future together. I could always trust him, as he was faithful. In fact, I would say I was more of a flirt than he was, but neither of us had suspicions that I know of. All I know is on Saturday he had unfriended me on Facebook and on Monday, after no answers of my calls or texts, I found his new girlfriend on Facebook. I met her once. They are, in all honesty more suited for each other, but it doesn’t soften the blow. I just want closure in all this. I’ve begged him to call and had his friends ( and new girlfriend) ask. I want to know why we broke up, and why he refuses to tell me. All I can believe is that he thought I cheated. There’s no explaination way he would be so cruel except that. I have never cheated, of course, and anyone who knows me would know that. Deep down inside i think his reaction of finding a new girlfriend so quickly means that it doesn’t matter, he just wanted an excuse to replace me. Is this correct? I just don’t know if some misunderstanding broke his heart or if he really found someone better for him. Would someone be so cowardly that they wouldn’t tell the one they loved just a week ago they found someone else? Or is that only a sign of anger.

[tkastnd06]

Okay… So for closure, well I guess I’ll never get a reply from him as to why he couldn’t tell me. I don’t want him back, and he doesn’t want me back. I’m so glad I don’t have to see him ever again. To make sure I don’t I have blocked him on Facebook. This is how I’m going to move on. I’m not gonna let him hurt me anymore.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I get a lot of posts from readers, like yourself, who want closure from a boyfriend (or girlfriend) who’s moved on without suitable explanation or any explanation at all. The bottom line is that you can’t make him give you closure. Once a relationship ends — whether it’s a dating relationship or a marriage — the other person isn’t as invested in your feelings, usually, and isn’t as interested in what you want any more. So you can try and contact him, but it sure looks like he’s not going to be responsive. 🙁 I can see how this is hurtful. Now, you get to see a part of his character you missed along the way.

Two years is a long time to date someone and not get a proper break up — or even a dramatic break up — but it is what it is. Let your heart heal, and when you do get back out there and date again, try and learn more about his character early on.

I hope this helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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