[realheat]

I met this girl back In October of 2011, she’s a senior
In high school, I’m a college sophomore. I immediately started liking
Her from the get-go, it wasn’t until the end of the month of October (
After hanging out as friends, several times before) she said she liked
Me, we started dating about a week and a half after (She wanted to just
date and not label anything “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” at the time
Because she’s been hurt in past relationships, and wasn’t ready for a
Physical an emotional relationship) we approximately
Went on about 3 dates in November, an everything was going well,
Come thanksgiving 2011, her communication plummeted, she stopped her
Usual texts to me every day, an seemed disinterested, in the beginning of December
2011, I asked her if we were still dating because how she’s been acting
Lately towards me, she said that she has been distant towards everyone
including me. She said she likes me but she does not know what she wants? she said
She has a lot of things going on in her life at the
Time (cheer, school, job) which are true and that she just wants to “go
With the flow” and not label anything because of
Pressure. I told her I completely understand an respected her
Intentions, hoping the communication would get better, it did not,
Unfortunately, it went on for about another week and a half until I
Asked her why she’s been pushing me out lately, an again she said its
toward everyone she’s been with she’s acting like that, she said its
because of her emotions. I also asked her if she could ever see us in a
relationship, because it felt like I was wasting my time, she said she
“just can’t see us right now”, I asked why an she went on to say that
She hasn’t fully gotten over the last guy she’s dated at all, and that she
Was “really really liking me” but can’t explain what goes on in her
Head? she said partly cause she’s scared of getting hurt,( in a
relationship), and that she never planned doing this to me, I ask how
can you go from not feeling the same way about any guy you’ve dated
Before (me) to just nothing? she said she just wasn’t feeling it
anymore, personally I just do not understand, examples of things she said as “oh were dating for sure”, “you will never lose me, trust me”,
“Don’t worry, iam not going anywhere, so don’t push me out”, and a week
later, it’s over? There was never a traumatic event or fight that happened between us that would cause a usual common breakup, it went from top of the roller coaster to the bottom in the flash of my eyes. It’s been almost a month since she’s ended it, we’ve hung out a few times, not alone, an texted a couple times here an then,I really want her back, is there anything I can do? Need advice!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It takes two people to make a relationship work — but only one to end it. She’s lost interest — or there’s someone else — there could be any number of reasons for her distancing herself from you, but luckily, she’s being honest and straightforward with you. I know it’s confusing when she seems so into you, and then a month later, not so much, and then nothing. Emotions are funny and sometimes they ebb and wane like the moon.

My advice is to let go and move on. You’ll probably have better luck meeting someone at college who has a similar lifestyle to yours. She’s in high school and she has pressures there that don’t always translate to college life. Look around campus and find someone who’s into you! 😉

I hope that helps. Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

[realheat]

Ok ! at this point I have nothing to lose so, do you suggest talking to her and asking her straight up the “real” reasons why she decided to so suddenly stop dating? and if so how should I do it? because the reasons she gave me are very contradicting.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

My advice is to be glad you have clarity that it’s over, and to move on. No, I don’t recommend you ask for an explanation for the break up. 😳 The important thing is that you realize she’s broken up with you, and that she’s a high school sophomore who may not have a lot of dating experience or communication tools to explain her feelings to you even if she wanted to. Her conflicting explanations are a result of her being 16 years old.

My advice is to accept the break up and move on. Try dating women on your college campus. It’s going to be a lot easier since you’re in college, to date someone who’s also in college rather than a high school student. 😉

I hope this helps. Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter. and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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