[raerae1621]

I will explain my situation first: I was carpooling with a guy at work for a while. After that was done, he would drunk text me every weekend, we talked a little at work and he would be very flirty.. This went on for about a 6 months and then one day I went with him after work and stuff happened, no intercourse though. After that, we stopped texting and only talked when it had to do with work stuff, this went on for about 4 months. After the 4 months, I get a message on facebook from a guy I didn’t know but it was the guy from work messaging me from his friends account. We started texting again and one time when he was drinking he told me he has liked me this whole time. I told him that I actually liked him too but he does have a girlfriend. Just recently we had met up and hung out, he was kissing and feeling me up. A couple weeks later, he came to where I work in the building and just started kissing and feeling me up. We still text and talk at work. if we are alone for a minute at work, he’ll touch me and poke me, stuff like that. I know its wrong, but of course I like it because I actually like him. He’s the only guy I get shy around, and gives me butterflies sometimes. I think to myself that I should just stop and then he will end up texting me that day or the next, honestly happens every single time.

Should I just ask him what he really wants? Should I just end everything? Or can you give me some advice? I’m stuck on what to do.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not sure how old you are, but be very clear on one thing: [i]He has already let you know what he wants. He’s made it very loud and clear. You don’t need to ask him. And you shouldn’t.[/i] He wants sex without a commitment, at his convenience. Don’t trick yourself into thinking he wants more. He doesn’t.

If you want a relationship with a guy who respects you and is interested in intimacy and a future together, then you have to find that guy. He isn’t it. If you just want to have sex with someone who doesn’t really care about you, and has shown you that, then he’s your guy. 🙄

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[jennaMax]

If he’s got a girlfriend, he’s being well cheeky messing around with you. I know you said you like him but if he is doing that with you while dating someone else, imagine who else he maybe doing the same with? he sounds like a dog tbh…i’d be straight with if i were you 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

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