[Anonymous]

Is there a difference between a guy being mean to you because he likes you or does it simply mean he just isn’t interested in you? Also, what does it mean when a guy makes eye contact but doesnt say anything? If you know a guy might like you but doesnt talk to you as much as other girls…is it because theyre shy or that they dont find you interesting, and therefore dont initiate conversation ? Why would a guy who knows that you like him and you know he likes you be a jerk one moment then the next be all cute with you?

This is how it is between me and a guy I know; I’ll call him T 🙂 I’m sorta new at relationships.I’ve never really had a boyfriend or anything so its hard to tell if he genuinely likes me. With this guy i know…when he’s a jerk to me but nice to other girls..it makes me feel like he doesnt like me, but then when he gets cute with me or whatever…then im like…oh ok he likes me still (Or is he just being nice?) Also when he walks towards me, he’ll look me in the eyes, but doesnt say anything or even smile. Some days are good where we’ll talk and laugh together, then other days it feels like we’re avoiding each other.

There was this one incident, where me and someone else were talking, i dont remember how the conversation went, but T said that i said something in a bitchy way and I was like “you would say that because you hate me.” I said that in a joking manner and all he said back was mhmm. I dont know if he was joking or being serious; i couldnt really tell by his tone. I sometimes notice that when he’s in a bad mood or something he doesnt talk to me or if he does he sounds unhappy, but when he talks to someone else, a guy or girl, he sounds fine. Or because he likes me romantically , is he just more emotional with me or am I just being too optimtistic and dont want to admit that he’s not interested in me anymore? Some advice would be great 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not sure how old you are, but the dynamics you’re describing are very high school. High school teenagers obsess over whether or not someone likes them, and how much, because that’s all they [i]can[/i] do! Most of them don’t have cars or enough money to really date, so hallway drama over feelings and making out in locker rooms or under the bleachers is the best they can do given their limits.

Adults have a great way of showing each other how they feel. It’s called dating!! 😉 If this guy likes you, then he’ll show it by asking you out on a date. The beauty of a date is that it’s so deliberate. When a man asks you to have dinner with him, or to go to a movie or some other event, you can know that he definitely wants to get to know you more, and he likes you enough to want to get to know you.

The mixed signals you describe in your post aren’t important because if he likes you, he’ll ask you out. That’s how you’ll know there are no mixed signals.

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