The first thing you should do is go have a physical to rule out any biological or physiological reasons for a lack of desire. Sometimes medications you’re taking can interfere with a normal sex drive. Other times, there’s something going on in your body that a doctor can figure out.
After you rule out any physical reason for your change in sexual desire, consider your age. Sometimes women who are entering menopause lose interest as a result of changing hormone levels. I’m not sure how old you are, but this is something to consider if you’re in that age bracket.
Next, understand that long term relationships normally wax and wane in every aspect. Keeping things fresh is hard work! 😆 Consider shaking things up — from your hair color to a change of place (hotels) to reducing stress you may not even know is in your life, but is affecting your sex drive. Make sure your romantic life is well tended — date nights are important; keeping intimacy and communication (not just the business of running a household, but the relationship you and your husband have apart from all the home work) fresh and flowing is important; keeping YOURSELF feeling sexy is one place many women fall short. Grooming (manicures and pedicures shouldn’t be a hobby), beautiful lingerie, nice clothes and fresh scents are all ways to make yourself feel good. Exercise gets the endorphins going and makes you feel more confident naked 😎 and then you can always take a look at the book I wrote to put the X back in your sex life, Romantic Date Ideas, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/romantic-date-ideas.html[/url], has some excellent date situations you can emulate and/or riff on to create the setting for better and more sex.
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