[kscarlett1973]

Hello. I am 38 and have been my fiance for 4 yrs. We have had our ups and downs but have worked through it all. We have a pretty solid relationship now. The problem i have now really isn’t with him, but with his friends. He recently started up with a band again and its great to see him happy and enjoying himself. I use to help out with it but they decided that I was no longer needed. Nobody in the band even talks to me anymore. I know for a fact that they no longer what me around the band anymore. The thing is my fiance does not know this and I don’t know how to handle this.

I don’t want to hurt him and I don’t want him to quit playing. He works so hard to take care of us all, that he needs this time to himself. The other part that makes this so tough is that he does not have his drivers license and where they practice is an hour away. So I have to take him.

I’m also afraid that if i tell him he will not believe me and that he will think that im being overdramatic.

Please help me?
Thank you,

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, you need to stop driving your fiance and suggest he get a driver’s license. 😯

Second of all, you have to figure out WHY your fiance’s band doesn’t want you around any more. It seems like something must have changed if they used to want you around and now they don’t. The answer to your question will be in the reason you and his friends have developed a rift.

Also, when you mentioned that he takes care of “us” — who is “us”? You? Kids?

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