[Anonymous]

I’m in a relationship with this guy that I love. I have never felt the way I feel about him toward anyone. He says he loves me just the same however I feel a lack of motivation or commitment from him. He rarely plans dates anymore, I have to always ask for sex and he has said he doesn’t see a future between me and him. He says we won’t be ready to get married till 4 or 5 years down the line and all he is looking for right now is a girlfriend. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Help Please?????

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re not lost — you’re disappointed that you’re wasting time with a man who’s looking for Ms. Right Now — not Ms. Right, and he’s found her in you, as long as you stick around. If you’re having to ask for sex 😯 he’s not interested in having sex with you — and I’m not sure how old he is, but I’m guessing he’s looking elsewhere for it, and trying to let you down easily by saying he isn’t ready for marriage or a serious commitment.

Accept what he’s telling you and accept his behavior. It’s okay to be sad that someone you like so much doesn’t like you back in the same way, but don’t stay paralyzed. See the rejection as a gift that is pushing you in the right direction (away from him), and put on your big girl shoes and get back out there and find MR. RIGHT! 😀

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