[Anonymous]

Dear April,

Im a 23 yr old female. I was in a long-distance relationship, hes 28 yrs old, but we r off since 2mnths ago but we r still in contact.
I really like the way you think.. and wanted to know your opinion on some points!
Do you believe that love is evrything and that it can overcome anything…
and wat happens when love collides with pride??

Lady S

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Love is not enough to overcome EVERYTHING. And when pride and love collide, love loses.

If you tell me the specifics of your problem, I can respond more clearly. Let me know what’s going on!

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[Anonymous]

Well, i will give you some details. We live 2 hrs by flight away. Last year, at a fund raising dinner, he was there with his family and i was there with mine. He noticed me but did not have the courage to talk to me and i honestly did not notice him… however facebook is an easy means to find anyone and we became a couple in Feb this year.

due to his very demanding job, he just came to see twice in our 5 mnths as a couple. He can fly over i cant. At the time i was doing my internship and had already taken a week off b4 becoming a couple. I also had to work on saturdays so flying over the weekend was not an option.

He has a very good job and he loves it. Our conflict started when i was about to start a 2 yr graduate program in my city and he wanted me to move to his place by next summer. He was not encouraging and was selfish. I dont mind moving to his city but i wanted to complete my studies first. honestly, if i had to choose between him or my masters, i would choose my masters but i wanted both. All this time he had plans that i would move by next summer to his place and completely disregarding that i have my own plan and ambition to finish first. He talked to me several times abt not starting it and moving to his city. I honestly wanted to move with him and live together and get to knw him more, i hated the long distance and i used to wait for him and count the days till his nxt visit.

My family met him but did not like him.. they never told me till after us breaking up. they thought he was a controling person and were afraid of him hurting me.
Well i broke up with him bcs he indirectly insulted the way my family think ( i can let go of this part)
told me that if i moved in that the house cleaning would be on me as if im some housekeeper,
and was ready to play some kind of sneaky game on my dad and actually asked me to be a part of it!!!!!!

shock fear and tension thats hw i felt for 3 weeks till i broke it off. and now hes trying to talk to me in getting back saying he was sorry and that he didnt mean what he has said and that he loves me so much and is depressed without me and that love can overcome anything even this and with time i will forget wat he has said bcs he will do anything i want and is going to wait for me to finish my studies.
and the excuse for his talk…so c how far i will go for him cos he thought i must love him for him and to see how much im ready to go for him!!!

thats it actually and thnx for your interest..and sorry for the long post i tried t kepp it short :S

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If he loves you enough to win you back, he sure isn’t trying very hard! 😕 He isn’t offering you any changes in his own behavior. In fact, when you said he was selfish, you hit the nail on the head. His best effort to win you over is to tell you YOU will soon forget his bad behavior! 😯

I know you want to believe in some magical love potion, but real love involves sacrifice and wanting the best for not just yourself, but each other. He’s only got half of that equation down pat. 🙄 Listen to your parents. They’re right. You can do better.

Get my book called Think & Date Like A Man, so you can understand how to date in a way that will weed out these Mr. Wrongs from your life and allow you to not waste time. You have a lot of good things on your plate and it would be a shame to sabotage your education and career by wasting time on a guy who is so selfish. Here’s the link to the book: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. I hope you’ll buy it and read it.

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