[ShoeGuyCasanova]

Im totally confused.. I thought this guy was showin interest, but since he had a girl, I didn’t move on it..
We’ve been workin together for the last 4 mnths. He’s 23, I’m 32. When he 1st started, he asked a co-worker whose also a friend of mine, how old I was. Then for about 2 wks, after we close, and their’d only be the manager, my coworker/friend and another dude, he’d call my name, but not need help.. he’d just do it “cuz it sounds nice”. He wouldn’t do it to anyone else. We’d vent about work, and small talk. I noticed he was a lil shy. I know I can be too and forced myself to ask him ?’s just to get to know him better.. Recently, I got my friend/coworker a housewarming gift. As we left I overheard him ask her about it, and he asked where his was. (he had also moved into a new apartment at the time). Here’s the thing.. He’s got a girlfriend who he’s been with for 5 years and lives with. He doesnt talk about her unless someone brings her up. He’s mentioned to a few that he’s not happy.. She’s never came into the store. Too make it more confusing.. A week ago, while I was out of town, I got a facebook note from his girl (using his fb account) saying I should know he’s in a taken, and she’s hearing im goin above and beyond friendship level by getting his phone # and accidently texting him, and doesnt like people interfering and removed me from his facebook. I was shocked since I didn’t think that I did anything wrong, and funny since he made the 1st moves. I called my friend at work to see if anything was said while i was gone.. My friend told him I got an email from his girl. He didn’t know about it, and got in a fight with his girl, and told his girl i was a cool girl. Since i was still out of town, He wanted my friend to let me know he didnt know she did that, and didn’t want there to be any weirdness between us. At the same time..I think he got a whiff that I was interested. I think another guy overheard my girl refer to him as my work boyfriend, and told him. He asked her if I liked him, and had asked my friend/coworker if i was.. she gave him the impression that i think he’s nice, and cute and he wanted her to tell me that he thinks im a cool person, loves that im free spiriied and respects me. He was actually flattered i considered him since he didnt see himself as the most attrative.. I wrote his girl back admitting that I thought he was a nice guy, haven’t done anything beyond friendship level, and that what she probably misunderstood what she’s heard since im aware of their relationship, and that i accidently texted him flight info, and cancleed it, and if he ever needed me to cover his shift, give me a call. Then she writes back sayin its HIM that told her, which i find out considering he’s the one that made the first moves. When I got back to work, it was odd. he said hi, but i felt a little uncertainty. I told him, I liked him as a friend, think he’s cool, and hate that it lead to a misunderstanding between him and his girl. He just brushed it off with a it’s ok, don’t worry about it.

Since this happened.. I’ve felt weird around him. Guilty for liking him, and end up saying dorky stuff.. like back from break already. I got the feelin like he’s unsure around me too.

Did it seem like he was interested?
how to let him know i wanna be a friend and get to know him more without any strings… i figure thats the best to do right now.. and let it grow from there..

[Ask April Masini]

Yes, he did like you. He’s 23 years old and lives with his girlfriend with whom he’s been with since he’s been 18. You do the math: he hasn’t had a lot of experience and at 32, you’re not just another woman, you’re “the older woman” who is interested in him, which makes you even more appealing to him. So it should be pretty clear that he did and maybe even does still like you.

However, since his girlfriend has already approached you about overstepping your bounds, be prepared for more of the same if you become friends with him. You may be walking into a mess, so proceed with your eyes open. 🙂

I hope that helps — and that you’ll join me on Facebook. Here’s that link:[url][/url].

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