[malabo4]

We went out on 2 dates and the last time we went out we held hands. Last night he called and told me that we should go out again so we could talk. He said that when we held hands it hurt him for some reason. He told me that he really enjoyed spending time with me and that he liked me but he was not ready to enter a relationship and thought that we just stay friends for now. He said he was still in love with his ex. He honestly thought that he was ready to move on. She broke his heart. They were dating for 3 years and he was going to ask her to marry him but she broke up with him before he could do it. They broke up 6 months ago. He said it was not fair for him to date me when he was still getting over her. He said he wanted to continued to get to know each other and if in the future it went somewhere then he would be happy about it. He also told me she is trying to come back into his life but he trying to resist her. Someone told me that She texted him while we were out on a date. All she said was hey. He did not say anything back. The girl does not know that he has been dating she went away to grad school in South Carolina. He said she still has some kinda of hold on him. He is very straight forward guy that tells it how it is so I believe what he says. I would like to be more than friends and he knows it. But I have no idea long it would take him to get over her. I do not want just sit around waiting for him but I also feel a really good connection with him. I just do not want to get hurt but I feel like I need to wait it out a bit.

[AskApril Masini]

It’s not really a love triangle. You’ve had two dates.

He dated someone for three years and broke up with her six months ago, and after he had two dates with you, realized he isn’t ready to move on and told you so. I know you’re disappointed and you like him, but I think you should respect what he’s telling you and count yourself lucky! You only invested two dates in this guy — not two years or even two months. That’s a huge break for you. The fact that he’s not ready and he knows it is super valuable information, and you should use it to understand that he’s just not compatible because of it. Time to move on. You’ll find someone who’s ready, and you’ll be much happier. 😀

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