[Mimi]

hi long story short me and my boyfriend got into a huge fight, it kinda blew up because it wasn’t about anything specific after the first day. Ever since, which really has been about a month, i dont think he’s been the same. he had told me it takes time. so we kept on and things did get back to normal a little more but he doesn’t sound excited when he talks to me like when he gets off work for example. or says sweet things I dunno something isn’t right. I guess i should add that during the fight when we were talking he said he didn’t no what was gonna happen. SCARY! well when we saw each other again and calmed down, we acted liked nothing happened and I asked him if he wanted to talk about it. he shook his head no. but what he said has always stayed with me O and let me add that when we’re together everything feels fine. but since we only see each other on the weekends cuz of work, im reminded during the week that things are differen’t. makes is soo hard. So I’m sure if i did the right thing. I was afraid to bring this up and was getting really sad about it. I was feeling like i was walking on egg shells, that we weren’t gonna be together because up until last month i never had any doubts. SO TODAY i told him that i had been so sad that things didn’t go back to the way things were after the fight and that I don’t feel secure in our relationship (i said that differently but thats what I was saying) and Im just gonna leave him alone and maybe he’ll miss me and things we’ll get better. and maybe you (he) wont but I cant go on being scared all the time. something like that. What do you guys think???

[Anonymous]

let me add last night I broke up with him. I’m so sad. he cried but didn’t stop me. I already want to call him cuz i miss him, its harder to feel like you’re doing the right thing when no one is angry.

[Ask April Masini]

It’s definitely easier to walk away from someone who’s behaving badly than from someone who’s not arguing with you, but it sounds like you did the right thing. I know you’re lonely today, but keep busy and get out of the house. Hang out with family and friends who are supportive of what’s best for you, and get out there and look for a guy who IS Mr. Right and not someone who fights with you and can’t over the fights.

I’m sorry you’re sad, but if you stay busy, productive and open, you’re going to be not just fine, but great. 🙂

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