[Arshiyasehgal13]

i have this bf whom i really love and i am very serious about him. So there is another guy X who is my boyfriend’s old friend. They dont talk now . So when 3 years ago when i went to amritsar I talked to my bf friend’s the guy X for a week and i used to like him.So my bf and him used to stay together alot. So when i picture anything of that area. I remember Guy x as well, not that i dont think of my bf I dont want to remember him even as a memory. Somethings remind me of him Tho i talked to him for a week only, and when i deliberately think about it, Then i think more. otherwise i dont and And i start panicking .Is it something wrong to feel guilty about?
I know its not a bid deal but if i keep my bf in my place and thinking or remember about another women even if it not that way i just cant deal with it. And also i have always had interest to show off in front of guy X but nothing in that way, but to see how pretty pretty i am and all. Does that mean i dont love my bf?. Othwewise i will die of guilt. Please help me. I have done nothing wrong. And i will never do anything wrong. But even remembering about it makes me panic. I dont wanna even think about him. And as people say i just should be preoccupied with his thoughts. When you are in true love you dont have the time to think about anyone else. I think of my bf 99% of the times but rest 1% makes me panic af. Sometimes like i said i had pictures d myself alot when i liked him for a week. Thats why maybe my thinking is restricted when i think of that area .As my bf also lives in the same area.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

In your pre-posting questionnaire, you wrote that you’re 18 and your boyfriend is 21 and that you’re engaged to be married in a year, and you’ve been dating for a year, so far. It sounds like the two of you are committed, and these thoughts you have of someone else or the idea that your boyfriend has similar such thoughts, are eating you up inside with guilt. Relax. It’s normal to think about other people, and even to flirt with them. That doesn’t mean you’re acting on those thoughts. That’s the bigger deal. 😉 You’re in a relationship — you’re not dead! Focus on the relationship and be understanding of human nature. Flirting is fun and it can make you feel alive. If it doesn’t bother your partner then it’s not doing any harm, and it may make you feel better about yourself — and ironically, your relationship, as well, as a result. I hope that helps!

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