[LW95]

We have talked some about marriage and children. He doesn’t want anymore kids, nor does he want to get married. I am young and he is older(I enjoy this) and I wouldn’t say I’m the hottest girl in the world but I’m attractive. We have a rough past together before we committed to be in a relationship. We live together and all around in happy. My question is am I just an ego boost for him? When you love someone don’t you put your feelings aside to make them happy? If so why won’t he have a child with me or get married?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He’s 48, divorced for five years now, with two teenagers, and you’re his 21 year old girlfriend of two years. The lucky thing is that he’s being straightforward with you. And it’s great that you’re so clear on what you want! That said, you have to consider that he’s focused on not remarrying and not having any more children. I get that this is disappointing for you, but while some people do sacrifice for love, others don’t. It’s important not to judge and instead to find compatibility. If you want marriage and children, it’s important that you date someone who wants the same. And if marriage and children are more important than anything, then those are your deal breakers. But if you prefer to be with him, while giving up marriage and children, then you can do that. It’s really your choice, and you’re not trapped.

I hope that helps!

[Swera Khan]

Wow, April, I really like your way of giving expert advice.
As an expert, you are more logical than emotional, and you value reality checks, which are most important in such situations.
And I agree 100 percent with Asak April that you two are on different paths. If you want marriage and children,
Then you should look for someone whose priorities align with yours.

[Member]

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