[Rosales216]

I met this girl on Tinder. For a week straight we would text constantly, FaceTime, and talk on the phone every night. Every morning she sent me a Good Morning text and we would chat all day. She had work one day, so we set it up to where I would bring her lunch and we ate in my car (I know so romantic).

That was on a Saturday and on the following Monday she agreed to meet at the coffee shop by my work while I was on my lunch. I should also mention that this girl is extremely shy. Like the whole time at the coffee shop she barely said anything. I was doing my best to make her laugh, which I did on several occasions.

After lunch I walked her to her car and politely gave her a little handshake. Like i said this girl is extremely shy so I did not want to force myself on her in anyway. Afterwards I texted her saying “I hope you had a good time, don’t worry I am willing to wait for you to open up more”. She did reply to that text saying “lol because like I said it will take a bit”. I replied asking if she would want to hang out again.

That was the last text she sent me. I text the next day “Good Morning”. Later that afternoon I text her again saying “I take it with the lack of responses you no longer wanted to talk. It was nice getting to know you. I wish you nothing but the best going forward”.

I feel so bad, because I think I made to much of a deal of her being so shy. Should I pursue her anymore or just leave it as is?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think you should leave it and move on.

[jazz000jazz]

she seems too shy and i dont think she was ready for the dating scene yet- you seem like you are a nice guy and im sure that even though you may have a connection with her on some level, which helps us fill the empty void at times for whatever reasons, just move on as there IS plenty of other people – that will hopefully have a great time with you.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Not everyone is going to be a match. 😉

[Megan]

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[April Masini, your AskApril]

Cute!

[Sally]

This sounds like a misunderstanding more than a disaster.
You didn’t do anything wrong, and you weren’t creepy or pushy. If anything, you were too careful. With someone that shy, silence doesn’t always mean rejection. Sometimes it means they got overwhelmed, overthought everything, and froze. The part where things shifted was that last message. To a shy person, that can feel like pressure or like the door slammed before they figured out what they felt.

I wouldn’t keep chasing her, but I also don’t think you need to beat yourself up. If you want closure, one simple, low-pressure text is okay. Something like: hey, I realized I might’ve overthought things. No pressure at all, just wanted to say I enjoyed meeting you. Then leave it alone.
If she responds, great. If she doesn’t, that’s your answer. Either way, you handled this with respect. That matters.

[Tara]

She didn’t disappear because she’s shy; she disappeared because her interest dropped, and you made it worse by acting insecure, apologetic, and emotionally premature. The moment you sent that “I’m willing to wait for you to open up” text, you positioned yourself as a man standing in line for approval instead of someone she needed to keep up with. Then you sealed your own rejection with that passive-aggressive farewell message, fishing for reassurance. That wasn’t maturity; that was anxiety wrapped in politeness. Shy women don’t stop texting men they’re excited about; uninterested women do. And when someone goes silent, the correct move is silence, not a resignation letter. You didn’t give her space to miss you; you gave her proof you’d fold under uncertainty.

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