[Anonymous]

Well, I have this friend guy whom I am really close with and we share each others problems. Lately, I always felt excited around him and I noticed that I act awkward around him nowadays. I asked my friends why and they said: It’s called love! Clearly, you have feelings for him!” when my friends mentioned it, I started thinking so deeply that my surroundings is not my concern. About a week later, I felt reassured that it was mutual love. So I confessed to him. When I finished talking, I saw ‘the’ look on his face. As if he was disgusted with me. So I asked if I said Anything wrong and he replied: of course there is something wrong. I just don’t feel the same way!” the moment I heard that, I felt messed up. So I ran. I knew without a doubt that he has rejected me. So then I started avoiding him. It was successful for about 2 weeks then he just insisted on seeing me during the weekends, which was saturday. I was reluctant to go but I guess I had to man up and face him eventually. So I met him at a cafe. There, I saw him sitting in on of the corner tables. So when I said hi and sat,he looked really sweaty and all. Then without any expectations, he said: look, the way I treated you when you confessed, was unforgivable and I was surprised that you said it. Honestly, I panicked. But I really like you too. Ever since we first met. So…if the option of going out with me is still available, will you?”( went something like that) and I quickly said yes! I was so happy! So everything went well for about a month. Till his birthday was coming. So I wanted to buy him a present and I knew that he loves whales and orcas. So I decided to buy him a whale doll. Just for him to hug on or something. Since I didn’t have enough pocket money to buy it, I worked for it. Just about 3 weeks or so. The night before his birthday, I had enough money to buy it so I we t to the mall. Just when I bought him the present, I received a call from him saying he really needed to talk to me.
So I quickly ran to the park and I saw him with this Timid looking girl. I was surprised. Maybe it’s his cousin or
something. Then, quickly, he said: maybe it’s best we break up. I thought It was love at first sight. Don’t get me wrong. It was.but this girl here, she stole my heart and I think she is better than you. She really cares for me. And I care for her too. So, I wanna break up.” ( went something like that) there, I was speechless. I couldn’t think anymore. Then, sense came. I just said with a bit panic: a hahaha you must be kidding wow. You nearly got me there.”them I saw his face. It seemed serious.so I just threw the packed whale doll and birthday card to him and ran. I just couldn’t stop crying.I always made up excuse as to why I couldn’t meet up or didn’t have the time to talk at school. I avoided him everywhere I go. I just couldn’t think of that fact that he was serious. I don’t want to break up yet! He was the one whom said he liked me too! And yet he treats me like I’m som piece of trash?!

Please Help April, What should I do. Should I keep avoiding him? Or should I just end it right away? I just want to make things clear between us. Or perhaps it was a misunderstanding between me and him

P.s: we are both 19. I don’t know about the timid stranger I don’t mean to call her ” timid stranger” but I don’t even know her name nor where she comes from!

-coward111

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It’s not so much a misunderstanding as it is a change of heart. 😳 People fall in and out of love and in and out of like all the time. Your friend isn’t interested in dating you. He wasn’t very graceful about telling you, but the bottom line is that he’s changed his mind about his feelings and what he wants from you.

I’m very sorry you feel hurt, but I want to tell you that rejection is actually a gift because it shows us who to bestow our attention on and who to avoid. If someone rejects you, there is no sense trying to make them like you. Instead, you can steer clear of him and attend to people who ARE interested in you! 😀

For now, I’d steer clear of him until you feel better about yourself and realize that there are lots of guys out there who will like you — and maybe already do! 🙂

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