[southernqueen36]

I have been ‘talking to a guy that I met a few monts ago at a conference. We exchange numers, and hit it off instantly. He works as a police officer and has a 2 year old son that he has shared custody of. I also have a 5 year old and an 18 year old. The point I’m making is that I am concerned that he either is playing the field, has someone else, or both, because the only time we really talk is when I call him, except for maybe once or twice when he calls me. His voicemail is constantly full. I text here and there to say ‘hi’, hows your day, etc..no response. Every now and then he may respond on fb..but not often. However, he has quite a few ‘lady friends’ as it appears from his fb page..and I’m not ‘trippin’ because I have a lot of ‘admirers’ also, that I’m in no way interested in. My probelem is the level of communication. He says that he ‘s intersted in me. But I don’t believe that because if a person wants to be with you, they will communicate, especially if there’s distance between the two. I made the decision today to tell him that I am moving on, and that I deserve someone that will give me time and attention. I honestly believe that he is playing the field, and is stringing me along, but tried to make me feel guilty for being concerned about the lack of communication on his part, because he stated that I would ‘lose out’ because I expressed my concern over the lack of communication on his part. I shouldn’t have to be the one initiating most of the contact. My friend says I’m not being sensitive to his ‘busy schedule’. I disagree. We are still friends on fb, but I’ve made the decision to stop calling him or trying to contact him.What do you think? I understand that he has a child, a job, etc. But so do I, and I make time to at least call or text. He claims that he really likes me, and wants to make it work everytime I decide that I am ‘done’. I think that’shis way of keeping me holding on while he figures out what he wants to do ( I suspect there’s something else going on on his end).Either way, I deserve someone who will make time for me. I have been single for 3 years after a break up. I feel that if I ‘settle’ for this, I am not doing myself a favor. Please help.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Trust your instincts. 😉 If a man wants to date you, he will. If he wants to call you, he will. There’s really no sense spending time with someone who doesn’t even take you out on a date after meeting a few months ago. 😕 So, yes, move on — and don’t waste time with someone who doesn’t make you feel like he’s really into you!

You should read Think & Date Like A Man, so you know what the signs are when a man likes you. Here’s the link for the automatic download: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. You can also buy it on the websites for Amazon or Barnes & Noble. As a single mother, your time is particularly valuable, so learning how to date and what your best strategy is, is very important.

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