[lme1976]

I have been seeing this guy on and off for about 8 months now. We dated in High School for several years and reunited 8 months ago. We are now both 35. We got very close, very quickly. He was in a relationship, so I backed off. When he ended things we started seeing each other again and things got physical. Since we have been physical, he communicates a lot less with me. I have brought this up. He has said that it is normal for him to get uncommunicative sometimes and that it has nothing to do with me. I don’t buy it. We see each other a couple times a week. The last month, every time we get together, it is basically sex. That seems to be the only way I can hold his attention in a texting conversation lately, is to talk about sex! I do love this man, and I know that he cares about me, but he IS NOT showing it. He used to make plans with me. Now we get together “spur of the moment”. I am allowing it to all happen because I don’t know what else to do besides end it all. Any advice??

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The best way to find out if a man is interested in you is to stop chasing him. I think you’re afraid to do that because you’ll see all he wants is sex, not a meaningful relationship. 🙁 When you first got together, he was with someone else. My guess is he’s pursuing other women the same way he pursued you while he was with someone else — even though he broke up with her. That you’ve been “off and on” for eight months, coupled with your having to get his attention with sex isn’t a good sign for his being Mr. Right.

Read Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], so you have a better understanding of how to find, get and keep Mr. Right.

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[lme1976]

Oh, I’m not chasing lol. He initiates 90% of the contact, both verbally and physically. If he doesn’t text me back, I wont text him. I have pride issues. I have put myself out there a couple of times with him and it didn’t go so well. I refuse to chase anyone. It seems that if I back off, he comes forward, then backs off again as soon as we get “close”. Should I just not answer his text messages???

[April Masini, your AskApril]

When you said that the only way you can hold his attention in a texting conversation is to talk about sex, it seems like you’re trying too hard and making it too easy for him to have sex without his chasing you to win you over, and then when you say that every time you’ve gotten together in the last month, it’s just for sex — no dates — again, it seems like he’s not really chasing you or wooing you — he’s got you too easily! That coupled with his being uncommunicative makes it sound like this isn’t really a mixed message he’s sending you — it’s a message that he’s not that interested in a relationship, but if you’re willing to sleep with him, he’ll stick around. 😕

Read Think & Date Like A Man, like I recommended last time. [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] is the link where you can download it automatically or else you can buy it at Barnes & Noble or Amazon. This book will help you understand how to GET the man you want and shed the ones who aren’t Mr. Right.

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