[jharrison]

I have been getting mixed signals from an ex recently. We’ve been broken up for a couple years, but we still talk every once in while through texts, she usually texts me now. I ran into her a few nights ago for the first time in two years, and we talked for a long time. She asked me to come to a party later that night. Immediately after we said bye, she sent me text after text about coming to see her at the party. I came to the party later and as I was walking in one of her friends who really approved of me stopped me. Her friend was drunk, but she told me that my ex liked me, but that she was drunk and I was too nice of a guy to be a mistake and that I had to do it right. I went inside with no intention to take advantage of my ex, I just wanted to see her. At the party my ex didn’t seem very drunk, but she gave me the cold shoulder. I didn’t push it, acted cool, and mingled with the rest at the party. I won’t lie and say that I don’t have feelings for this girl, but I am the point where I’m ok if we don’t get back together even though I want to if that makes sense. My question is how I should approach this. Should I just keep playing it cool, and not mention anything about that night, even though it seems I’m missing a chance? Should I talk to her and risk drving her away? Should I talk to her friend that approves of me and obviously knows something I don’t, and risk it getting back to her? I’m 24 and she is 23.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I know you think she’s giving you mixed signals, but from what you’ve written it seems like you’re the one who’s giving yourself mixed signals. 😮 It isn’t clear whether you want to date her again or not. If you do, then you should ask her out on a date. Don’t have “a talk” or tell her about your feelings. Just invite her to go out with you. 🙂

If you aren’t sure about whether or not you want to date her, then don’t. I’m not sure why you broke up with her, and how things have changed that make you think that things with her would work out this time, but maybe you need to think that through. 😉

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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