[Kalyov]

My boyfriend broke up with me on October 2nd. We had been together 29 days short of 2 years. After that I did not talk to him for a week and a half, then we started talking again. First texting, then sitting together at dinner and hanging out again. We had a fight on November 13th, and we have not spoken since. I read a lot of dating advice books and I decided if I ever wanted him back I must first walk away. I turned my back on him that night and have only spoken to him a few times since, like “hi” or “how are you.” Not much, only about twice.
Well during finals week in December, he met me while walking on the sidewalk and said “Hi” then the next day he hurried up to open the door for me and flashed me a huge smile. I smiled back and said “thank you.”

That made me think that maybe things were going to start and get better and we could start talking again and possible get back together. Well Break ended on the 8th of Jan. and we have not said a single word to each other.
In fact this week, he keeps dodging me. Every time I come near him this week, he skirts away. Like today after class I stopped to talk to his roommate, he was on his way over and then noticed me and quickly turned around and left. He also went around the room in a back way to get where he was going. Hes done this several times this week and it’s driving me insane. I don’t understand what he is doing/thinking.

My friend said he might be ignoring me, because I ignored him. But what does that mean? Is he trying to get me to talk to him?

I’d love to talk to him, I miss talking to him so much, but I don’t think it’s the right time yet. I feel that if I want him back I my life, I have to wait longer.

Help, I am confused at his actions. Is he trying to really ignore me? Or is he doing it because I did? And/or is he trying to get me to bend and talk to him first?
I sometimes catch him looking at me, but then he quickly turns his head away.

I’m so confused.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

This isn’t that simple. The first question I have is: Why did you break up? And be honest — you have your reason for why you broke up, but what was HIS reason? In other words, if you weren’t in the room, what would he tell a friend the reason for his break up with you was?

Sometimes a couple reunites after a break up, but more often than not, they don’t, because for one of the people in the relationship, the break up was for a very strong reason. So even though you think you’d like to get back together, unless he does, it’s not going to happen. It takes two people to make a relationship work; one to end it.

As for the mixed signals, it really doesn’t sound like he’s giving you mixed signals any more. It sounds like he really wants to avoid you.

I hope this helps. Let me know how things go. And please follow me @AskAPrilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[Kalyov]

I just wanted to tell you what happened tonight.

After I read this post I was standing in the restroom crying, and one of my Fraternity sisters came in and sat there and listened to me talk for awhile. She told me “You won’t know unless you try.” She had been through this very same thing. So she took my phone and wrote a text message. She wrote “(His name), so I know we haven’t talked in awhile, and if you don’t want to I understand. But would you be interested in hanging out sometime?” Handed the phone to me and said “send it.” I was hesitant so I did. An hour went past and no response, I was in even more tears.
His roommate’s fiance is another of my Fraternity Sisters. She said “we are all going to a Show Choir Competition tomorrow so we are leaving tonight, he might be packing the car.” Well I waited another hour and now I was in some serious tears. All my sisters piled around me kept asking what was wrong so we talked for awhile.
By this time his roommate’s fiance had left because they had to get going.
I got a text from her saying “He never got the text, Baby Girl.” So I asked…”Should I resend it?” And she said “Yes, I would try resending it. He said, ‘What? Oh my god, I would have answered her.'”
So I resent it and he responded with, “Um we could probably make that work sometime. I dunno when but it could happen 🙂“
I said “Sounds Good 🙂” And then he said “Ok well anyhow imma go to sleep now. So…good night 🙂” Because By that time he had been driving for 3 hours and it was past midnight, I responded with, “Good Night 🙂“

I am all similes now. I hope this works out.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Good luck! 😀

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