[nancyha]

I met this guy on Tinder, we went to have lunch and then we had sex (very quick, I know), which was also good. After we cuddled for a while, I didn’t feel he was distancing from me. He said that if I didn’t have plans the next day we should meet. We both had plans so he walked me out and kissed me good-bye. 5 minutes later he sent me a message saying “I loved our afternoon”.

For the next two days he sent me good morning messages, we held small conversations and at one point he stopped answering. So I looked for him 2 days later, just said hi, we started talking again and I asked him if he had plans for the weekend, he said he was working on Saturday but Sunday free, so I told him maybe we could do something on Sunday and he just replied yes! Then I said I had a lunch but that we could meet in the afternoon.. and then he stopped replying again!

I won’t look for him now, I know that.. but what do you think? Not interested? A one night thing? I can deal with it, I just think it’s confusing. Any insight would be highly appreciated!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

There are no mixed signals here — you went on Tinder, a hook up site, and found a guy, met him for lunch and sex. And he’s not really interested in seeing you again — to the extent that he isn’t making a date with you. The fact that he’s being polite is confusing you — don’t be. This is exactly what Tinder is intended for. Fast hook ups.

[nancyha]

Yes, that’s sort of what I thought. I’ve gone out with guys I’ve met on Tinder so I didn’t think it was exclusively a hook up thing. He is new in town (in the country actually) so I think he is just exploring his options

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think you have a pretty good handle on it, now.

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