[Dolly87]

I recently found out that my boyfriend has been seeing someone else for the past 8 months. I confronted him about it and he promised me that he’d end things. He later assured me that he has ended things with the other woman but I felt unsettled by the entire thing so I took it upon myself to find out if he was telling the truth. I asked the lady in question if they were seeing each other only to find out that they are. I showed him my conversations with her and all he had to say was ” I am sure you do not want anything to do with me now that you know everything “. I felt hurt and disrespected by him so I tried ending things but he kept saying that I shouldn’t give up on us and that he doesn’t want to lose me.

The last time I spoke to him he said I should focus on my exams and that we’ll sort things out after that. He hasn’t made effort to church on how I am or just Marley texting . He keeps saying he cares but I have doubts. He has been silent and distant. I also keep wondering if he’s playing the same caring cards on the other lady since she also found out about me.

What should I do? is this the end of us or what? I really love the guy but he seems effortless .

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

You should move on. He cheated for eight months, and you found out and confronted him. He said he’d stop seeing her and then you found out he lied and continued seeing her. That should all be reason enough for you to realize he’s not that into you. If you want monogamy, he’s not your guy. You should move on and find someone who has similar values and is really into you and just you. 😉 I hope that helps.

[Dolly87]

Thank you April. It really helped. Even though I am not sure if I can cope without having him around.

[April Mașini, your AskApril]

Once you make a decision to move on, then…. you have to work on healing from the break up. Start by smiling at 20 new guys every day. That should keep you busy — and you’ll be surprised at the nice responses you get. 😉

[Princess]

Yes, you should end your relationship and accept that you loved the wrong person. If you go back to him, you will always be reminded of how he cheated on you, and it will likely lead to frequent arguments between you two.

It’s better to cut ties now, especially since he has already shown that he is pulling away and not making any effort. Don’t waste your time on the wrong person and just wait, someone right for you will also come along, someone who truly deserves you.

[Member]

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