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My boyfriend has a past of incest and now its complicated

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    mrugup
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    My boyfriend of 1 year has had a past form his teenage years where he writes and fantasizes on online portals, about sex with his mom. I was never aware of this and have recently came across this profile of his. He has used her real name there and I even suspect that its his mom in one of the photos.

    As I dug deeper, I found that in his chats for the past 6 months, he has been using my name in chats, showing pictures of “his gf” and asking them to “talk dirty” about her (me). He has used my real name there. When I confronted him, he says he is now getting over it. He says it was a dark past and using my name was just to make himself guilty into coming over sex talking like that. He also says he has used my photo to show it to a random chat once.

    Presently, I am very scared. I have deleted all my photos in his system. He is urging me to reconsider him, pleading that he is a changed person. But I am bewildered. I have loved him like crazy and saw a very bright future with him. But this incident has shaken me. I feel this person is different from the one I know. He has done this sex chatting using my name even when we were happily committed.

    What does it mean? What should I do now? Please help.

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    AskApril Masini
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    He’s got problems that are causing him to act out, and he’s involving you and possibly putting your safety at risk. 😳 You may love each other, but his problems, which I’m guessing you don’t even know the full extent of at this point, are going to come between the two of you. Before he can be in a healthy relationship with anyone, he has to take care of himself. His acting out with strangers online indicates he’s having trouble doing that. Whether or not you love each other has nothing to do with his ability to be in a healthy relationship with you and to keep you safe, as well as himself. You’re right that this is complicated, but it’s really his complications, and my advice is that you extricate yourself from the relationship and move on. 😳

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