[Anonymous]

I met this guy about 6 months ago off line went on a date every thing went well. He has commitment problems and wanted to wait to see if we should date. I saw him for about 2 weeks before he decided he started seeing us more as friends. So I took that as your putting me in the “friend zone” so i met up with another guy. Me and the new guy hit it off and started dating.

He wasnt to happy, hes like i said it was only heading that way. I felt kinda bad but we became really good friends. The new guy only lasted 2 weeks. shit happens! :p

Then because me and him already have messed around and got along we started being sex buddies. After i broke up with the other guy. So we’ve been sleeping together ever sense. Hes tried dating I’ve tried dating. But it always end up just being me and him.

Its more then just sleeping together we hang out like friends. We go out to movies, out to eat, go on drives, or just chill and talk. Its like hes my best friend. He’ll flirt with me tickle the crap out of me. Now he started if I go on a date he’ll text me through out the whole date. Just incase if my date gets out of line and i need him.

Hes like if the guy pulls any thing I’ll be there to beat the shit out of him. He’s getting protective of me and making me confused. He tells me to date. But then goes before you date i need to meet and judge him. If you date him before i meet him and dont like him Ill brake you up.

Its like he’s my protective boyfriend. I’ve told him I still like him. But he always points out I dated the other guy inspite of him and “friend” zoned him. After that he said we could stop sleeping together. But it just keeps happening.

Im at my wits end. He makes me so confused. Does he like me more then a friend or is this all in my head? What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Honestly, he only wants you when you are with someone else. Classic case of I want what I can’t get. This is not a friendship. This is not a romantic relationship. He is not a boyfriend. He is not a friend. End it.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You are the one who’s sending him (and yourself) mixed messages! 😮 You can’t have sex with a guy and then date other men and tell him all about those dates. It’s confusing to everyone!!

Figure out what you want from him and then be clear in your behavior. If you want to date him, then read Think & Date Like A Man, and follow the tips and advice so you understand how to find, get and keep Mr. Right. Here’s the link to buy the book: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. If you want to be buddies, stop sleeping with him and treat him like a friend. But as long as you have sex with him, but try to fool yourself into thinking the two of you are just friends, you’re going to continue getting — and sending mixed messages.

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