Thank you for reading this. I have a few concerns in my relationship. A couple of issues that we have come up over and over. They make me want to leave this relationship.
First some background: we’ve been together almost a year now, we’re almost the same age (26 going on 27, 28). We have a lot of interests in common and can talk well to each other. My boyfriend was not used to being able to talk about things that he was upset about in the past relationships but we can talk about things.
Issue one, which has come to break up point now a number of times… but somehow I’m being convinced that we can do something about it every time… is sex. He’s not happy with how often I want to have sex. I prefer once or twice a week on average. He gets angry. He does have an issue with pain and it hurts. He needs medical attention for it, and sex does seem to make it feel better temporarily. I hate being responsible for “fixing” this. He often accuses me of not caring about sex or not liking it. His anger makes me even less close to him. I feel violated when he thinks I should do it because it’s “my job” to take care of his needs. Am I wrong?
Issue 2: Lately he quits everything, when he gets stressed (or doesn’t have sex enough), he quits…won’t go to college classes if he will be late, won’t go to class if homework is not done, leaves his jobs without giving notice telling them goodbye. I’ve tried to explain why supervisors have rules as well as the college but he gets mad. I can’t stand all the quitting! Should I be angry about this? Angry enough to want to leave? I don’t work all the time either, and I’m trying to be better about being on time and reliable…it’s taken me years to do the right thing with jobs. I feel slightly hypocritical, but I feel like he doesn’t want to try.
