Hi April,
I just got done dating someone this weekend. I met the sweetest girl 6 weeks ago online. As we dated, we both quickly realized that we had same moral values, interests, sense of humor, and shared same visions for the future and where we want to be in life.
However, earlier last week she texted me wanting to meet for coffee, and by the language she used when she texted me I knew she was to break things off with me. We made small talk for about 10 minutes as we had coffee before she brought up that she only saw me as a friend but also said that even though “I treated her like a queen, I was respectful towards her, I’m extremely handsome”, etc… but she eventually just said that she explains that she doesn’t know what she wants, and that she’s scared, and that’s the reason why she’s single.
I really care about this girl in the context of dating and as a friend. I respect her so much because she is such a good person and has a good heart. My response to her breaking it off with me was “You’re a great girl and you deserve the very best, so you need to search for the best and get exactly everything you want and get everything you deserve.” Her response was “You deserve the best, too” in which I responded “well, the best doesn’t want me. Don’t worry, you have to run the risk of being rejected when you date.” (I reminded myself this when I first started dating you and I’ll be okay). She responded “I’m so sorry” and I said “You have nothing to be sorry about.”
I could tell just after that conversation, with how calmly I responded to her and by what I said that she started getting a little emotional, maybe felt guilty or that she made a mistake, but I made sure to let her know that I wasn’t mad and I still thought the world of her. I started walking her to her car when we were done and she said “you don’t have to walk me back” and I said “I know” and I continued to walk with her. She grabbed on to me around my waist tighter that she ever had before until I eventually open the car door for her. I hugged her and kissed her goodbye on the forehead and told her to have a good night as I walked away after I closed her car door for her.
My question: we are going to be seeing each other at a charity event in 3 weeks, I know not to text her, call her, etc from now until then. Do you think there is a legitimate chance that she may want to date me again (in time)? I know to be friendly, funny and kind/playful when I see her again… is there another certain approach I should take when I see her?
Thanks for you help!
