[youngatheart87]

I had a female friend which is what is was in the beginning and we were both clear on that but as time went on I started to develop feelings for her and when I told her she got mad at me and shut me out because at the time I was angry I said some pretty mean things to her via text, I really helped her out when we were friends and told her that if felt being used she got very mad at me and blocked me on facebook, later when I tired to apologize she threatened to change her number, what can I do to try and reach through to her or is it hopeless

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not sure what you said to her when you were angry, but it kind of did the trick of shutting her out — unfortunately, she had one foot out the door, anyway, so your anger directed at her didn’t help. My advice is to send her a huge bouquet of flowers. Something really impressive, to change the mood. Apologize graciously in the card, and wait for her to call and thank you for the gift. If she does, change the tone of the relationship. If she doesn’t, you tried.

[Zoha]

I think the best solution is “Silence.” Give her space. If they really miss your friendship, they might reach out when they’ve cooled down. If you forcefully reach out, it could make things worse.
And AskApril gave the expert advice to send her a huge and “impressive” bouquet of flowers to lighten the mood. It might change her mood. If she calls or thanks you after seeing the flowers, you’ve got a way to go. If she still remains silent, “you tried”, and you should consider the chapter closed.

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