[LostManInMass]

OK so my girlfriend of over a year and a half just broke up with me saying we can still be friends with possible benefits. Most guys would probably be OK with this but I’m not. I’m almost 24 and she’s 18 and she says she needs some time to herself to think about what she wants to do with her life. I’ve been married already and my ex was a complete psycho that cheated on me and I ended up in a hospital after being deemed schizophrenic and bipolar I’m a good boyfriend or atleast I’d like to think so and I honestly love this young woman with all of my heart and I honestly have never felt this way about someone before not even my ex-wife. Can u please help me I’m desperate to keep her

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like you really have two concerns here:

First, the friends with benefits status is a bad idea. This never ends well. One person always has more feelings for the other person (in this case, you would be the one desperate to get her back), and she’s basically telling you she’ll have sex with you, while she’s having sex with other people if she feels like it, and there’s no commitment between the two of you any more. This is A BAD DEAL! 😳 You’re going to get your heart CRUSHED if you continue like this, so my advice is NOT to accept this status, even if it means not seeing her again.

Second, it sounds like you want to get her back. In order to advise you on this one, I need to know why she broke up with you.

Let me know and I’ll give you more advice.

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[LostManInMass]

Its been a number of things leading up to it. Somethings I’m not too keen on sharing online but basically its she wants to feel herself out and take some time to figure out what she really wants from life and that yes I’m almost 24 no I don’t have a car or license to drive one but she doesn’t really like the fact that she’s always coming g to see me that I don’t bring her flowers everyonce an a while and I honestly don’t have a completely steady income to do so with I’m looking for a steadier job with better income than what I have now but its hard economic times right now and only holding a high school diploma equivalent. I honestly love her and she does as well its just lately we’ve kinda grown apart and I’m doing my best to get us back to that point of togetherness

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like the reasons she gave you for the break up are twofold. First of all, her need to explore the world, at only 18 years of age, is a legitimate concern. She’s got a lot less life experience than you do, and while age difference isn’t necessarily a problem, life experience compatibility can be. But that’s all up to her to figure out. In your corner are a couple of things YOU can do to show her you’re committed to winning her back. Getting a driver’s license is a great idea so that she doesn’t have to do all the driving. Getting a better job with more income is also a great idea, and I know this is a process, but starting the process is going to be good for you whether you’re with her or not. And bringing her flowers or other small gifts once in a while should be a no brainer.

So do what you can do, and let go of what you can’t. If you get her back, then you’ve learned that adjustment is a great tool for relationships and if you don’t, you’ve bettered yourself and will be that much more ready for your next relationship!

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[LostManInMass]

Thank you April. We ended up sitting up and talking to eachother for the whole night last night and we actually came to an agreement on what we want to do along with me doing what she wanted me to do (open up and freely express my feelings to her crying and all lol). We want to take it slow and do our own things for now but Valentine’s day we are going to have a night to ourselves as friends for the time being and see where we are at at that stage and if things go smoothly we will probably be back together around the time of our 2yr anniversary in may maybe before who knows 🙂 only time will tell. I think we will be good. Again thank you for your help ill keep u updated and I even found ur page on Facebook lol 🙂 happy new year and thanks again 😉

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re welcome! 😀

[LostManInMass]

Well were officially done we have been texting thru Facebook and had just sent her a message saying hey I miss and love you and she sent me one saying “We’re done.. I’m over you” which kills me to see her say it but I guess that’s how its gonna be for now. Its heartbreaking I admit cuz I still love her with all of my heart but I guess that’s how its gonna be. I told you I’d let you know how its going so here I am lol

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Time to move on for good. Terminate the friendship on Facebook. She’s not your friend. She’s not your girlfriend. Let your social network status reflect real life. It will send a message to your brain so you can process what’s happened. I know it’s hard, but you can do this. 😉

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[LostManInMass]

Juat found out 3days ago ahe cheated on me 3 times in 2 years im done fuck her

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Time to find someone with better character. 😉

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