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Hi, Im new to this site in bed wondering what the hell I am meant to do and found this site.
So here it goes.. I am a 25 yr old single mother of two kids, and not had many real relationships, in fact I probably wouldn’t know an “adult” relationship if it hit me in the face. Im very… Young I guess when it comes to the big bad world of real grown up dating. I was with my kids dad from 17 to 22… And then I guess on and off after that, he was basically my first everything. So now I find myself in a single situation that I haven’t been in since I was a kid I dont know how to act flirt or progress a relationship like an adult ive never even been on a real date. And I also seem to be in aa mental meture state of still liking younger guys.. Since these arw thw onea i seem to relate best with… Here in lies the problem.. Ive started college im in a class with much younger people and my friend circle is now 17 yr old and 2 19 yr old guys. Which is awesome we get along its fun.. I do not act my age. But now I find myself totally flirting like a stupid teenager with the 17 year old.. And i can’t seem to help myself. He is clueless I mean wy wouldnt he be there is no way hes going to think of me in that way at all 25 yr old two kids… Im not even on his radar… And it bugs me.. I feel wrong I feel like im making a fool of myself the other two in the friend circle see it they comment that him and I have hit it off and make little joking comments. Even my best friend said hey go for it, hes legal it doesnt have to be anything se other tban fun. But again i know myself im not far enough developed in relationships to sven begin to ha.dle casual… What the hell should I do.. Please dont judge me? Am I ssme awful almost prddator or do you actually think its may? If tgats where nt brain is at I cant really be judged for it can I?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It’s time for you to grown up. 😉

Because you’re a single mother, you have to be more responsible and you have to put your children first. All the time. If you’re going to date someone, you have to date someone who’s going to be either a good step-father someday, or someone who’s going to be responsible and a good person to be around your kids, if it ever gets to the point where he will be around them. In other words, your kids have to enter into your choices.

That means that you can’t act on your feelings all the time. You can have a crush on someone who’s a minor, but you have to understand the implications of dating him or just fooling around with him. His mother and father are still responsible for him, and they’re probably not going to be thrilled that he’s having sex with a 25 year old single mother. In fact, if they’re angry enough, they could call the police and have you arrested, and then your children would be in jeopardy. 😳

Another not so great scenario is that your circle of teenage friends may be good people, but they’re not mature and they don’t have the same life experience that you do, and they may not make smart choices — none of which is a good scenario for your kids, if these friends find their way around your kids.

My advice is that you stop saying that you’re not mature, and instead, own up to the life you have — as a grown up. 😉 I’m sure you can find men your own age and older who would love to date you and who are fun, interesting and more appropriate than teenagers.

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[April Masini, your AskApril]

It’s time for you to grown up. 😉

Because you’re a single mother, you have to be more responsible and you have to put your children first. All the time. If you’re going to date someone, you have to date someone who’s going to be either a good step-father someday, or someone who’s going to be responsible and a good person to be around your kids, if it ever gets to the point where he will be around them. In other words, your kids have to enter into your choices.

That means that you can’t act on your feelings all the time. You can have a crush on someone who’s a minor, but you have to understand the implications of dating him or just fooling around with him. His mother and father are still responsible for him, and they’re probably not going to be thrilled that he’s having sex with a 25 year old single mother. In fact, if they’re angry enough, they could call the police and have you arrested, and then your children would be in jeopardy. 😳

Another not so great scenario is that your circle of teenage friends may be good people, but they’re not mature and they don’t have the same life experience that you do, and they may not make smart choices — none of which is a good scenario for your kids, if these friends find their way around your kids.

My advice is that you stop saying that you’re not mature, and instead, own up to the life you have — as a grown up. 😉 I’m sure you can find men your own age and older who would love to date you and who are fun, interesting and more appropriate than teenagers.

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