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Ok me and my guy have been together for 3 years, we currently have a 5 month old baby. We have had a long distance relationship up until the baby was born. The entire three years I have found naked pictures on the computer. I have found that he his ex girlfriend was telling him she loves him and misses him last year when we were together. He is really fast to talk about sex with other females. He was unable to come where I was to see our son born for reasons. After my son was born I moved her, when I got here I found that he was talking to and trying to hook up with girls the day his son was born on online sites. He said he didnt meet any off them and that he didnt know why he did it. I forgave him for all this. Well I have this friend who is pretty sexual to say the least. Well up until about 3 weeks ago she didnt have his phone number or email. But he gave her his resume to give to a friend to help get him a job. Well now she has his number and is texting and instant messaging. Even made the comment did she want him to go “do” someone to get him a job. Well I was out of town this past weekend and found out that they were talking. I asked him why he was talking to her and it caused a huge fight, he then instant messages her and tells her that we are fighting because he is talking to her in return causes us to fight.
So now my delima, knowing what kinda of person she is I feel like I cant talk to her anymore about anything that happens with me and him because I frankly I dont trust her and would think she would try and sleep with him.
Well yesterday he came home and his phone happened to go off and I picked it up.
I read the conversation and she told him that she saw a billboard that said “you are what you eat” and he replied “do you wear that for your boy toys” and the convo went on for her to say that she had breakfast in bed this morning “meaning had sex with someone” and he commented “on you got your protein” meaning oral sex.
This made me angry I feel that if he is in a relationship with me that he shouldnt be talking like this with another female.
Then today the girl told me that the guy had my bf resume and to that he should call at lunch so knowing she already told him I told him too. At lunch I asked him what the guy said and he said long story and I will tell you later, but he told her.
I dont know what to do.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think you do know what to do, but it’s not what you want to do. 🙁

Your boyfriend and the father of your child together has been cheating on you, probably the whole time he’s been with you, and he’s still doing it. He doesn’t want to be monogamous to you, and he’s not going to be. Your friend that he’s flirting with (at least) and possibly sleeping with (at most), is not your friend. Friends do not treat friends the way she’s treating you. 😕

So, my advice to you is to end your relationship with this guy. He’s going to bring you nothing but heartache, and as your child gets older, your boyfriend is going to be a very bad role model for your son together.

Go to court and get a child support order, so that he will be ordered to support his son, and start your life as a single mother. Now. While it may seem heartbreakingly hard, it will be much easier than what you will endure if you stay with this guy who has no respect for you.

I’m sorry that this isn’t what you want to hear, but your girlfriend is the least of your worries. Your boyfriend is the problem.

Good luck. 🙂

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