[roamnticguy]

Ok I will tell you about the situation and then you can tell me if there is any hope for me at all. I was seeing this girl for a few months. She said it was love at first site and that every time we were together I gave her butterflies. Well I was working and could not spend as much time as I would like with her. Her friends kept telling her to move on. They introduced her to a guy. About a week later she said she still loves me, but wanted to back off for a bit. Well for a few days after that we did not speak much at all. Then all a sudden on after noon she texts me and asks what I was doing. We exchanged a few texts. Later that day she wanted to me to call her. She was crying and said she had been thinking about us and was missing that. She got off the phone hurriedly afterwards. The next day we exchanged a few texts general conversation. That afternoon she got some bad medical news and texts me wanting to talk so we do and she tells me all about it and said I was the only she felt she could tell. The next day we texted some more and talked on the phone some more. Same thing the next day. The conversations are general and nothing really about us. We make jokes like we did before and she will say stop before you make me cry. I will tell her I miss her, but she avoids a response saying she misses me. I have said well I enjoyed talking you today and she will say U2. I know she is telling her friends that the new guy is wonderful and she can’t stop thinking about him. She does not mention him much to me other than to say well I won’t be home tonight. She has another email that she asked me to use so it does not go to her phone because he checks it. I asked her why she said no reason. She was always telling me how special I made her feel. I asked her does he do that she tells me “somewhat”. We also talk via messenger but general conversation nothing major and she avoids saying miss u etc. I also had given her a special piece of jewelry. To my knowledge she still wearing it. Now that I have said all that my main question is in you opinion. Does she maybe want me back and is just waiting on my to do my part and make it where I can spend more time with her, or she just being nice to be to avoid hurting my feelings. I so need a woman’s perpestive. She has been the one to start the text conversation or has said u can call if you want. She has said I am a wonderful man but she just need to move on. Please give me some advice.

Signed Heartbroken Romantic.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

She’s using you! 😯 There are women who keep men on the back burner for friendship, emotional support and to make themselves feel good that they’ve got a certain number of guys waiting in the wings. She has no interest in dating you right now, and she’s made that clear. She’s also keeping your presence in her life secret from her boyfriend by giving you an alternate contact e-mail that doesn’t go to her phone where he may discover you in her life and rock the boat for her. 😕

My advice is that men and women can’t be friends — and shouldn’t be because of just this type of situation. One person inevitably has stronger feelings for the other, and things get confusing at best and dramatic at worst. Since you’ve only known her a few months, and you haven’t invested that much in this relationship, and she’s not available as a date, move on.

Stop being friends with her and stop being her doormat. It’s not going to get you anywhere good. You should read the book I wrote for men who want to win with women, Date Out of Your League, for tips and advice on dating women successfully. You’ll really get a lot out of it. Here’s the link where you can buy it: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url].

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