[cynmart5]

Hey, I am in a situation that has me so confused. My common law marriage has lasted 8 years. Recently my man has gone over the road driving trucks. I made a friend with a man that made me smile over the phone as we talked. I mean happy and we were just going to be fiends. recently he put the moves on me and I almost gave in but stopped myself. I say it was because I put my hand on the bible and promised my man i wouldn’t cheat. (I didnt tell the other guy that). We talked many nights and I really just wanted to hang out with him no sex involved and he agreed to wait and see. Be my friend and all but respect. Now two weeks has passed and I spoke to him once. He dont call I dont call but I really do miss him I just want a friend. I admit i felt something sexual for him and I cant stop thinking bout him but I made a promise so I wont cheat. I now realise my husband slept with a lady on the road and he denies it. I am confused because this guy is ready to do things no strings attached but I dont know if I should get back at my husband. Then I dont know if I should call the guy and try to patch things up and do get intimate with him or just to be his friend. If I did call him what should I say. One more thing I cheated on my man once in the beginning of our relationship the only time ever in my life, so I tread lightly the subject with him and what I know of him cause I saw it on his phone. His texts about it to her which he thought I couldnt get into his phone to see. Since then he lost the phone and has yet to contact her i say because he was telling her how they could only be friends no sex involved. On him I feel he has stopped and we are talking again some as he got him a pre paid phone. Now I dont know if I should even contact the other guy. help!!!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, decide if you want to be married or not. If you do, then work on your marriage and stop being friends with single men. Of course they’re going to want more than friendship! 😯 Don’t pretend you can be just friends without developing emotional and/or sexual feelings for this “friend” and be clear that he wants to sleep with you — he can’t just be friends. So if you’re going to commit to your marriage then do it. If you want to stay married, but need real friendship, meet some women who can be friends with you.

If you feel you don’t want to be married any more and that the infidelities that both you and your husband have committed are too great to bridge, then get divorced, split up and be single. At that point it will be easy for you to look for someone new because you’ll be able to commit yourself to someone one hundred percent — and I think that that is really what you want to do. 😉

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