I have been dating this guy for about 2 months now. We see each other about 2-3 times a week, and usually stay over one night per week. He is 10 years older, divorced (2.5 years ago) with 5 kids all under the age of 10. I am divorced (three years) with no children. We both have to be the worst adult daters ever. In the two months I have been introduced to friends, entire family, as well as his children. Now it does at times seem so fast so soon and I do hold back. He tells me all the time how beautiful I am and how much he likes me. He has met some of my family as well, but not immediate family, as I am a bit guarded when it coms to that.
I enjoy him a lot but he tells me that I do give him mixed messages. Which I agree because at times I do not know what is going on things are fast, yet other things slow. He has introduced me as his girlfriend and then apologized saying it slipped, if he goes way for a day or so he always tells me how much he misses me, visits me at work and he has made some comments about things that make me think I am the only one he is dating, however when I am out of sight, I am out of mind. (This is a problem) He has joint custody and get the kids alot. If and when he has the kids we talk but I let him have his time with them, as I know they always come first and are priority. Then on the next weekend I look forward to spending time with him, however I he does not make plans all the time and decides to go away with his “buddies”, or does other things. He will come Sunday say “why did you not stop by the house” or this or that. However I am the type that “if” you want me there, then ask me, I dont do drop ins.
This can get frustrating and not sure what I am to do. I do like him, and I tell him that I am attracted to him and glad he is in my life, also I do support and offer to listen shall he have issues with the kids and what not. I just am not sure how to get him to engage more when I am not in front of him. I don’t think there is anyone else as we are always together in public and he is VERY affection and touch feely in public as well, but just in a weird spot. Part of me wants to just ignore him for a bit to see if he missed me as I am normally about 70% of the time the one who makes contact or plans.
Any insight would be lovely as I do like him, he has a lot of what i am looking for in someone to date, just not sure if most of it is all talk or he is just not smart when it comes to dating!
